There are two types of fear...
Fear of Failure & Fear of Success -
Fear of Failure says “What if l try, and l can’t do it?”
Fear of Success say “What if l do it, and I’m not comfortable putting in the effort that it takes?” -
Do you see the difference?
Our failures help us figure out how to be successful, but if your afraid of putting in The work to be successful, well then why even start in the first place?
No one is a warrior
There is no battle to be fought and won.
YOU choose to be a warrior, when you refuse to remain seated.
YOU choose to become a warrior when you dare to speak out against what is wrong.
ONLY YOU CAN CHOOSE TO BE A WARRIOR when you use your voice because others can't.
because someone very wise told me to document this moment and to teach to those who are as stuck in their own head as I am in this very hour.
Do you self-sabotage? Do you deny, avoid, delay, excuse... or am I alone in this? On the grand scale of importance, this current space of paralysis is such a tiny blip on my timeline but #fearofchange#fearofbeingseen#fearoffailure#fearofsuccess has so wholly consumed me to this critical point of self loathing.. i have created reasons for not taking action and normalized playing small. Seems I would rather talk terribly of and to myself than get out of my own way... turns out progress is f-in hard and when you dream as big as I do the process of growth is so beyond terrifying that I’d prefer running for the hills than break this pattern. So, not too many words of wisdom today other than to claim this moment as one turning point where I (hopefully) get out of the echo chamber of self deprecating behaviors and turn my gaze to a different horizon, a new outlook, and walk forward from a space of #selftrust 🤞🙏... here’s hoping. 🌊🌊#risingtide#askforhelp#reachout
@maghas3 you are my rock
I have a h u g e fear of failure. The fear that I won’t be good enough. The fear that my mistakes will be viewed as weakness. The fear that if something is not done perfectly, I will be viewed as incapable or incompetent. 🙇🏻♀️
Can you relate? 🤷🏻♀️
I tend to take on only the tasks I k n o w I will EXCEL at. I start projects that I k n o w I can do with ease or complete with perfection. ✨
So today, this reminder is for me (and y o u) 💛 Each mistake we make or failure we encounter is not a weakness but a s t r e n g t h 👊🏼moving us one step closer in the direction of success & growth 🌱
Choose t o d a y to move forward & begin to view those setbacks or failures as a boost in the right direction 💕🙌🏼
A lot of times we downplay our dreams because we “don’t want to get our hopes up” .. or maybe you think that if you tell someone your dream they will laugh at you or think you could never be capable of that (and that would be a major blow to your self esteem). Friends.. fear of failure is a bitch. It stops so much of us from living our best life (I’ve been there 🙋♀️). Fear of failure often occurs because:
🤷♀️ you have perfectionistic expectations for yourself - you think that everything you do MUST be successful.
🤷♀️ You measure your self worth by your accomplishments - if you succeed you feel like a worthy person, if you fail, you feel like a total reject 🤷♀️ you might have the false idea that successful people don’t fail. This might be the biggest misconception of all times! Ask any successful person how many times they failed .. they’ve probably lost count
🤷♀️ you have all or nothing thinking - you are either 100% successful or you feel like a big ZERO. You forget that ups and downs and mistakes are a part of learning. The only way to know how to do something is to try, do it wrong a few times, before you figure out how to do it right.
Don’t let fear of failure stifle your dreams. Challenge the thoughts and beliefs that are keeping you stuck. .
A great thing to ask yourself is.. “If I knew I couldn’t fail, what would I do?”
Then go do that! ❣️
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Many of us fear failure but sometimes it's also the fear of success that holds us back. You are allowed to be happy. You deserve good things. You will get to where you want to be. You are allowed to shine. Get out of your own way ☄
"Fear of failure" something that haunts me and it's not going soon... Even though I've searched and reached out for professional help; sometimes is better just to shut off and yes...Go Run... This pic is courtesy of @realrunryan whose advices are great for those out there who struggle with #beatanxiety#beatdepression#fearoffailure
As moms we typically put our wants and needs on the back burner. We are making sure that our kids make it to baseball practice, dance class and maybe even the occasional detention on time! 😊
While all of this daily running around is going on, we are usually thinking about everything we need to get done that day. It's when the kids are in bed, we are cleaning up the kitchen and starting another load of laundry (so they have a clean practice uniform) that the idea of me time creeps into our thoughts. 💭
Then a feeling of selfishness comes over you, because you feel guilty when you take some time, just for🧖♀️ you. You would like to read that book your friend was ranting and raving about, instead of diving into the book you feel like you should be cleaning the house.
At first when I started to make some me💆♀️ time, there were a few raised eyebrows. My family was so used to me doing everything for them.
There was definitely a retraining period we went through 😉 and I feel like it has actually been a blessing for all of us.
Tonight take that long relaxing bubble🛁 bath and open that book 📚you've been wanting to read!
Are we claiming to be in an entrepreneurial economy to justify the disappearance of the lifelong career at one company and this is just a way to say we need to create and prove ourselves over and over again, and forget the gold watch? Read more at https://franchisessentials.com/2018/07/15/clarifying-entrepreneurship/ #entrepreneurship#fearoffailure#entrepreneur
According to psychologist Carol Dweck, a person’s #mindset can come in two flavours: fixed or growth.
With a fixed mindset we believe that we are what we are, and that things (personality traits, capabilities, etc.) don’t really change. If I’m bad at maths, then that’s just me. I’ll always be bad at maths. There really isn’t any point in trying to improve my skills. Or, if I think of myself as a maths genius, then that’s that. I should barely need to put in any work because maths is my gift.
On the other hand, an individual with a growth mindset believes in constant evolution (“I am what I am now, but that’s different from what I was before, and what I will be in the future”). If I’m bad at maths now, I can work at it and improve. If I’m good at maths, then that must mean that I’ve already put in enough effort to have built up this particular skill-set.
The way we evaluate our sense of worth differs depending on our mindset. The fixed mindset individual judges themselves against others. In order to feel valuable, they have to be better than everyone else around them (or at least somewhere near the top). When this is the case, fear of failure is ramped up, and we’ll be likely to shy away from challenges, even — in fact especially — in the areas we consider themselves gifted.
The growth mindset individual though, will feel successful, worthy, and purposeful when they’re learning. What this means is that failure, as a concrete idea, doesn’t really exist, because the harder a task or an undertaking is, the more we stand to grow as a result of doing it.
So, where in your life do you feel that you’re most likely to slip into a fixed mindset? Where do you find yourself thinking that you should be *automatically* good or bad? And, most importantly, how would you think, feel and behave differently within that context if you were to actively adopt a growth mindset?