You want that car. A real specific and shiny one. You finally buy the car, and you love it. After a week, it still excites you when thinking about it and driving it. But then before you know it that car is just a part of your life. You hardly think about it, and it’s just there. You still use it, and it fulfills its function, but it doesn’t excite you anymore.
After a-not-appropriately-long-enough time you start thinking about that next car, and so it goes. Even if you’re not a car person, I’d wager you recognize this phenomenon; it’s called hedonic adaptation.....
Actually, no one is able to make you feel anything. Your feelings are your reaction to your perception about what happened. People can influence emotions but the actual experience of it and responsibility for it is yours.
But, for most of us, we can identify people and situations that seem to provoke us to anger. Another way to think about it is that whatever arises strong emotional reaction in you (that you do not deal well with) has the ability to pull you (or strongly influence you) because emotions impact behavior. However, you still remain responsible for the consequences of your own actions.
i.e. if you call me out of my mind and I become enraged and punch you, it doesn't matter that I felt provoked, I still must deal with the consequences of having punched you.
What in your life is provoking strong emotional reactions? How can you use those opportunities to own your emotions and learn how to deal with them better?
Ever wanted to start a food truck?
Ever just had drive to start a business?
Well you should check out this episode for insight. Find out about the trials and the mindset of someone who knew what needed to get done and executed.
P.S. they're hot dogs are 💣
What if you only had one day left on this earth? What if you only had a month? A year? Well, the truth is, the time you have in this life is limited. That's a scary proposition. But it can also be a strong procrastination defense. Should I be watching videos of baby pandas on youtube right now? Should I be worrying about something that won't matter next week? Remembering death can sometimes alter such behavior....
Hoje vivemos mais do que nunca como se fôssemos viver para sempre. As tecnologias e práticas medicinais que nos ensinam a cada vez mais prolongarmos nossa vida. Mas isso não significa necessariamente que passamos a viver mais. Pode-se dizer o contrário. O ser humano está perdendo algo importante. O tédio. Temos milhões de aplicativos em nossos smartphones para nos entreter. Temos uma locadora de filmes e seriados em nosso bolso. Milhares de livros disponíveis em um aparelho menor e mais leve que um livro. Não há mais tédio, aquele momento onde precisávamos passar um tempo conosco, um tempo sozinhos ou acompanhados, mas que precisávamos usar criatividade, ou não fazer nada. Essa prática é benéfica para que percebamos o que na correria do dia a dia deixamos passar. Ouvir nosso corpo, pensamentos, nos percebermos e avaliarmos como estamos indo. Nosso agora. A meditação é ótima mas não é dela que estou falando. É estar presente no agora sem precisar necessáriamente fazer algo. Muito menos fazer algo legal e mostrar nas redes sociais. É estar com você, com os outros, sem a presença de tecnologia. É lembrar da morte, lembrar que um dia isso vai passar, pode não ser tão rápido, mas pode ser que você não acorde amanhã. Pode demorar 20 anos, mas pouco a pouco sua juventide e vigor físico morrem. O dia de ontem morreu, aquele tempo passou. Você de hoje vai morrer hoje, de certa forma. Você está fazendo algo que vale a pena, passando tempo com pessoas que gostaria? Devemos nos questionar se valeria tudo o que fazemos, as brigas que ganhamos ou perdemos, tudo isso teria valor se amanhã formos convidados a nos retirar de cena? Há um homem que apesar de não ser um exemplo de estoicismo, disse algo muito estóico quando estava próximo da morte, "Expectativas externas, orgulho, todo o medo de constrangimento e fracasso caem por terra em face da morte, deixando apenas o que é verdadeiramente importante.", Steve Jobs. Memento mori. Lembre da morte.
I speak with people all of the time about letting go of things outside of their "locus of control." A big one that comes up is when you really want to go on a second date with someone, but they don't feel the same way. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
If someone doesn't want to go out with you again, it's important NOT to wrong yourself but just see it as a mismatch. They just weren't that into you. That's ok! If they aren't SUPER FUCKING excited about you, cut them loose!. You shouldn't be with a partner who feels "meh" about you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
If you want help finding someone you can say "fuck yes!" to, head to updatecoaching.com and live chat with me. I'm an open book and I'm happy to help!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I have been into #stoicism for a while now, and I recently updated my library with a big juicy order of books on the topic. Even though both #Seneca , #Epictetus , and the emperor #MarcusAurelius warned us about keeping too many books that we are not currently reading, I couldn't resist the urge to go a little un-stoic with my shopping habits. Because I can only read the text on a dollar bill (that's not Swedish money?!) so many times before I get bored with the content, so why not turn your money into books on ancient philosophy? That sounds like a perfect plan if you ask me. What
do you think? –
Have you read this one and did you like it? Comment below, and let's talk about it. #nonfiction –
P.S. Thank you for following and keep reading great books.
Sometimes you just need to remind yourself of the good things that happen day to day. I've been trying to find three things a day, however large or small, to not only be grateful for but that boosts confidence in myself or other areas of my life. Here's to the next seven days. #mentalhealth#bulletjournal#gratitude#epictetus#selfconfidence
Sooo I'm trying to upload the podcast to youtube and it's down. Well in the meantime have you had @swizzlerfoods ?
#1 food truck in the DMV as of 2017. The Da Vinci is my go-to. What's yours?
Well want to hear their story? Stayed tuned!
In order to experience true freedom you have to take ownership and responsibility of yourself first. Y O U are the only person in control of how you let your experiences shape you and what you do about it.
"The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane" - Marcus Aurelius. | Try and be comfortable questioning what everyone else takes for granted. True innovation is often polarising and sometimes counter intuitive.
"Contemple o mundo com novo frescor, com os olhos de um principiante. Saber que você não sabe e estar disposto a admitir isso sem desculpas nem acanhamento e ser fonte de verdade e preparar o terreno para aprender e progredir em qualquer atividade." (Epicteto, A arte de viver) #mar#praia#meditação#epictetus