I often hear the term you can’t be your child’s friend. I guess it depends on what you consider a good friend. Most think a friend is there for you whenever you want, dries all your tears, feels sorry for you and only tells you what you want to hear. I can already hear people saying... that’s not what I think a good friend is!! Ya... it really is what most consider to be a great friend.
I’m not that friend... anyone who knows me can tell you that. It’s true I’m always there for my friends but not in the same way as most. I don’t feel sorry for you because it does nothing to help you move forward. I don’t tell you what you want to hear, I tell you what you need to hear. I never tell you what to do, but always help you figure out what you want to do. I never tell you what right or wrong but guide you to figure out what’s right for you. I guide not control... and let you make your own choices and figure it out. So, I’m not sure if I feel like I can’t be a friend to my children because the above is how I am with my children. I don’t feel sorry for them I help them grow from their experiences. I tell them what they need to hear so they don’t lie to themselves. I try to not tell them what to do or how to be but rather guide them to make their own choices. I’m only here to guide them and give them the freedom to make their own choices... and to learn from those choices. It is very similarly to the type of friend I am.
Maybe it doesn’t have to be either parent or friend... maybe it’s both. I’m parent and friend to my children because that’s what they need. They need me to have boundaries for them, but they also need someone they can talk to and go to about life. As in all things, balance is the key… I’m always a mother and forever a friend. @commonsenseparenting #mother#friend#quotestoliveby#dailyquotes#quotesaboutlife#happinessquotes#bethechange#control#loveyourself#liveauthentic#live#livelifetothefullest#livelife#happiness#joy#peace#peaceofmind#innerpeace#enlightenment#awakening#awarness#consciousness#conscious#consciousliving#growth#growthmindset
By learning to pick your allies, you build on your natural power to make the right choices in key moments of life. Dive deep into imagining your life with conscious choice.
In this Shamanic Breathwork Journey, we will explore our deepest ‘felt sense’ in relation to external stimuli or events.
What this means is that you will learn to really tune into and trust your body wisdom and deep intuition as your guide. This is particularly helpful for practitioners of the Healing Arts, or anyone that finds themselves a ‘people-pleaser’ – and exhausted as a result of it!
This is the part of our human journey where we realise the stakes are high, and that we have to take the risk no matter what.
We will explore the power of ‘No’ - when to use it, and learn to respond with measure instead of quick fire reacting.
You will leave with: 💥 a new sense of resources and practices you can use to stay centred and in your power 💥 the ability to use ‘felt sense’ in your practice and daily life 💥 a new friendship with your shadow and knowing how to use it instead of being driven by it 💥 ready for the next stage of the journey, with a clear understanding of what needs to happen next!
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I saw this odd fellow pollinating some flowers at the nursery earlier today, it was so interesting in appearance, body colors of a bee and shape and size of a hummingbird, and a long tongue, it was a wonderful encounter. ✨✨✨Hummingbird Hawk Moth ✨✨✨The similarity between the hummingbird hawk-moth and hummingbirds is believed to be a result of convergent evolution wherein two species belong to separate families and having no apparent relation with each other develop to be very similar. This is called homoplasy, which is the copying of physical structures, which appear to be are functionally the same.
Hummingbird hawk-moths are considered to be a lucky omen. During the Normandy landings on D-Day in World War II, a swarm of these insects was flying across the English Channel, and the armada saw this, and the operation turned out to be the beginning of the fall of Nazi Germany.
Moths like this one are not dangerous to human beings as they do not sting or bite.
The relationship between this insect and Dianthus flower is that of mutualism, where the moth helps in the pollination.
2018 really is flying past and we are now just 20 days away from the shift. Have you got your ticket yet?
The Paradigm Shift Summit is a unique event where you get the chance to connect with the awakening tribe and other souls who 'get you'. We are looking forward to seeing both new and old paradigm shifters at the 2018 Paradigm Shift Summit.
We live in epic times!
The water before me.
See how it flows.
It courses in familiar pattern.
Swift and purposeful.
Yet there is no constancy.
In each moment the river is reborn.
Only the energy is unchanged.
Such is the way of our selves:
The thought-stream moving on its own.
The body in perpetual cellular change.
Among the change but one constant,
The continuous experience
of the Present moment.
It is the energy of Life.
A blade may pierce but cannot wound.
Stones my obstruct but cannot conquer
Effortless yet unstoppable
Yielding yet indestructible
Constant yet ever-changing
The mind cannot capture the essence of River.
Not by label.
It cannot be labeled.
Not by force.
It cannot be forced.
Yield as the river yields.
"When we are confronted with almost any demanding situation, in work or in life, simply taking the time and effort to ask questions can help guide us to better decisions and a more productive course of action. But the questions must be the RIGHT ones - the ones that cut to the heart of a complex challenge or that enable us to see an old problem in a new light. We have at our disposal a natural tool to help us think and "hack" our way to more successful outcomes. That tool is the humble question. 🤯
How can questioning help us decide, create, connect and lead? Decision-making demands critical thinking - which is rooted in questioning. As for creativity, it often depends on our ability, and willingness, to grapple with challenging questions that can fire the imagination. Our success in connecting with others can be improved dramatically by helping us understand and begin to relate to those who see the world very differently. Lastly, leaders are supposed to know the answers, but the best ask the questions no one else is asking. 🤔
Are you a beautiful questioner? Ask yourself the following: Am I willing to be seen as naive? Am I comfortable with raising questions with no immediate answers? Am I willing to move away from what I know? Am I open to admitting I might be wrong? Am I willing to slow down and consider? How can I see this with fresh eyes? What might I be assuming? Am I rushing to judgment? What am I missing? What matters most?" 🙋🏽♀️ - Warren Berger, The Book of Beautiful Questions 💝 #HigherSelfie
The body is a physical manifestation of the mind. “Meditation is mind without agitation”. Most people think that meditation is some spiritual shit only monks do, but it’s literally the healthiest thing you can do for yourself.
By letting go of thoughts that constantly run through your mind, you can reduce your stress.
Especially for people trying to build muscle, stress creates cortisol which breaks down muscle tissue. If you just can’t meditate for some reason , even just sitting out in nature is proven to reduce stress levels.
There is no point of having a healthy body if the thing that controls it is weak.
Bodybuilding is an illusion. Don’t expect to always look shredded 24/7 . Most of the pics you see on the internet are taken with the perfect lighting and angles(including this one). As you train, you will learn that you can be looking completely shredded one week and look fat the next week. This can be due to various things but mainly diet and water weight.
If you want to look aesthetic, I suggest you focus on training your shoulders and upper back. This will make you appear bigger without having to gain tons of muscle. Also, you don’t have to train abs everyday. Just focus on your diet and try to keep your body fat around 15 to 10% depending on how shredded you want to look.
By understanding how each of your muscles and joints function and work with each other, you can increase your strength & prevent injuries. Working on your movement also improves your posture and blood flow.
Start with dynamic stretches and use a tension band to improve your range of motion. Yoga is a great way to improve your mobility but if you want something more fast paced, I would suggest martial arts or dancing.
We all have 2 types of muscle fibers, the first type are fast twitch fibers and the other type are slow twitch fibers. Fast twitch fibers are used when you do heavy weights with low reps. Slow twitch fibers are used when doing lights weights with high reps. Some people have more of fast twitch fibers then slow, so for them it is more effective to lift heavy. If you’re on the other end of the scale and have more slow twitch muscles fibers like me, it is more effective train with light weights/ body weight for high reps.
Most people only train their fast twitch fibers making them stiff and their muscles useless. By training your slow twitch fibers you can be more athletic and your muscles will be more functional.
So a lot of people ask me how I am able to stay motivated and go to the gym everyday. Truth is, I don’t need any motivation because I genuinely enjoy working out. In fact, you can say I’m addicted to it.
Watching myself grow and transform brings me happiness and content. If you don’t enjoy your workouts you will never feel satisfied and you won’t be putting in as much effort as possible. My advice would be to constantly try out new exercises until you find something you enjoy doing. Then going to the gym won’t be something you hate, but rather something you look forward too.
MIND TO MUSCLE CONNECTION:
Probably the most important aspect of bodybuilding. Making sure you contract your muscles properly while doing an exercise helps recruit more muscle fibers and prevents you from injury.
When working on building a better mind to muscle connection, start with light weights and just focus on contracting/extracting a specific muscle during your set. Once you get more familiar with it, focus on the "negative" or the extraction portion of the movement, performing each rep really slowly. Trust me, you will have a really good pump and you will also burn out your muscles out a lot quicker, so you don't have to spend as much time in the gym.
(Swipe for transformation) Freshman year to senior year of high school. [130lb to 155lb]
If you are starting off super skinny like I did, EAT. The most efficient way to build mass is by being in calorie surplus, so make sure you are getting your meals in.
I like to bulk for 3 weeks and then cut for 1 week every month. That's pretty much how I stay lean year round. But if you don't care about aesthetics, I would suggest bulking for at least 6 months for some solid size. Then cut slow for like 4 months so you're not losing muscle. [DRINK MORE WATER]
Most people think that the higher the numbers are on the scale, the bigger you look. But in reality, how much you weigh really doesn't matter. I look way better weighing only 150lb(cut) than when I'm 165lb(bulk). This is because when you're lean all your muscles are visible. If you're gaining more than 1 to 2 pounds a month it's pretty much all gonna be fat. No matter how much you train, your body has a set limit to how much muscle you can build in certain period of time. Honestly, I just look in the mirror and if I'm looking fat then I cut and if I'm looking small then I bulk.
So main point is keep things simple and don't confuse yourself by checking your BMI and your body fat percentage every 5 min. (This vid was taken like 6 months ago but I'm around 158lb now)