SEXUAL VIOLENCE: Sexual and gender violence are the result of (toxic) masculinity combined with outdated sex and gender-based cultural, social and religious norms. Shame is just another thread in this gigantic ball of fuckery yarn.
This cannot be said enough times; patriarchy cannot be dismantled without re-writing the rules of the gender relationship between ALL men, womxn and non-binary folx.
The luxury to ignore these issues is one I do not believe we have, I know I don't! We must keep talking and doing for things to change, all ACTION is required!
This also means questioning EVERYTHING you have been fed by the world around you. We need to take a raw look at the systems in place and do our part in shaping a society where sexual violence doesn't exist! - Africa☇
#TCRTopicWeek | SHAME
📸 this summer I'll be flaunting my beautiful underarm hair to the discomfort of every mysoginistic asshole😚
🎶 Excited to be at Pitchfork Music Festival this weekend as the official nonprofit partner. We‘re here to raise awareness about sexual violence and connect with you! Come find us in the Artist Merchandise area next to the Green Stage. #StandWithRAINN 🎶
A group of 141 survivors of sexual abuse by Larry Nassar came together on stage at the @espn #espys2018 last night to accept the Arthur Ashe Courage Award. Today we send love and light to these "sister survivors" and to all #survivors of #sexualviolence . You are not alone.
Meet Shellena. She decided to share her powerful story about her experience with Refuge for Women!
This is why we as an organization exist...to help beautiful women like Shellena.
As a side note, we’re currently growing the SoCal volunteer team. Reach out to us if you want to help women like Shellena in our area.
#Repost @milckmusic with @get_repost
Yesterday night will go down as one of the most important and meaningful highlights of my career and life. Being able to literally and figuratively back up these survivors of sexual assault at the #ESPYS as a unified front means more to me than I will be able to express in words. To write music with so much love that it connects me with others who understand is a dream come true. The survivors informed me that @espn has been championing their story from the very beginning- before anyone would believe or listen. Learning that made this whole moment mean so much more to me. Congratulations to the #arthurasheaward recipients. I stand with you. #metoo#fiercewomen#strongwomen#fightlikeagirl#feminism#thefutureisfemale#girlpower#endsexualviolence
65/100 ::Accepting my body’s experience:: On one hand there is dissociation, distance from repeated violence—my mind was masterful at scrambling information to guard me from horror. On the other hand is intellectualizing what my body experienced—what still feels separate from me.
Being raped as a child was an irreversible stab into the core essence of my being. The profuse spilling of innocence from that puncture is more gory than if he mutilated my body with the most gruesome wound. The first time I was raped a black hole was born within me to accommodate infinite sorrow—it’s where I learned to pour every subsequent moment of the countless times I was raped thereafter. I fed the black hole entire parts of myself, anything that touched that violence had to go.
That separation saved my life. It also made me an easy target—with every attack I retreated ever deeper into dissociation: my body laid surrendered. It was my front line in war; it valiantly stood between rape and my core self, it protected me because no one ever did, it was the only caretaker I ever had. My body walked through fire to move me to safe ground.
I now feel some acceptance of how my body was brutalized. It is still very hard to look at my body and comprehend what it endured. For just a few moments these two hands of disparate experiences can merge in an understanding beyond my intellect.
I made that violence very small in order to survive, I hoped one day I could just flick it away. But actually I had to first let the monstrosity of it all explode out from the confines of compartments I had compressed it into, once I gave permission through the wish to heal it unwound itself from decades of suppression.
Now I can allow it to become small again—but this time in peace and clarity. The miracle of my survival—the profound strength of my will, the superhuman protection my body manifested in the face of annihilation—now rings bright in the truth: my power pales his grotesque grabs at power and domination from a defenseless child. The pain my body absorbed can now be a symbol of my vitality. I celebrate it for allowing me to step into my power—knowing I’ll never be diminished again.
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Although I am completely drained and emotionally exhausted I woke up with some relief. I woke up to this message about these Nassar survivors from someone who knows of a terrible journey I faced last year. Although I am again having to face similar challenges (luckily not to the same extent I'd previously undergone) I personally know speaking out against sexual abuse & sexual harassment is not easy. It's uncomfortable, and you constantly question yourself before, during, and after telling someone about it. You often feel embarrassed when it is the aggressor that should be the only one feeling shame and embarrassment. Although these challenges will never just disappear, I hope they lessen. We need to provide safer environments and promote against sexual abuse and harassment, and just as importantly ENCOURAGE women to stand up against the aggressor. I applaud these women. #metoo#womensrights#humanrights#speakout#survivors#espyawards#metoomovement#endsexualviolence#endsexualharassment#enddomesticviolence#domesticabuse#domesticviolence
How can we make social media a safer space for survivors?
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20 year old Hnin Ei is part of a tight-knit #punk community in #Yangon . One night at a concert, a man in her community grabbed her friend’s breast. “I was so angry and I posted on Facebook that I wanted to kick that person out,” she said. “But he’s older and he has a lot of friends in the punk community.”
In that moment, Ei says, letting people know that she was angry about the incident on Facebook made her feel relieved. “Like I’m not alone,” she says. “Sometime it feels good to speak out and share your experience with a lot of people.” But later, people in her community replied with comments like, ‘he didn’t mean any harm.’ He never faced consequences. *
Later, another friend was assaulted at a concert. The friend punched the assailant, and streamed the encounter on Facebook. The video went viral in Ei’s community. Ei says she hasn’t seen Myanmar’s women embrace the #MeToo movement online, but she’s seen hundreds of posts from women about their experiences of sexual harassment and assault. These are things that aren’t usually talked about openly in Myanmar, she says. *
While Hnin Ei says Facebook makes it easy for women to share information about sexual assault, she feels that what people say on Facebook doesn’t reflect their actions in real life. After her friend livestreamed the video in which she punched a sexual assault assailant, people blamed her for attracting unwanted attention in the comments. “I feel like we need to do something in the outside world,” Ei says. “When I’m angry and I want to do something and I post on Facebook, I feel like it’s not reality. I think it can be more effective to say something on the outside.” *
Ei has been off Facebook for the past 6 months. While many women use FB to share their voices, she says, campaigns often fail. “I feel there’s too much hatred on Facebook. People are posting a lot. Their hatred is getting inside of me and I don’t want...
Hey folks! The TRCC/MWAR is looking for a photographer to take some cool and consensual photos for our 2 upcoming events! You do NOT need to have professional experience, just a passion for photography and a love for our events! We are always most eager to work with survivors, women and non-binary folks who are racialized.
Image description: Red background with an image of a digital camera. Text reads: We are looking for a photographer! Photography needed for: Take Back the Night - September 14, 2018. Toronto Run & Roll Against Violence - October 13, 2018. $150.00 per event. Contact Naomi at: Naomi@trccmwar.ca
Such an honour to guide gentle yoga + mindfulness meditation with the support of trauma informed fundamentals.
An outdoor session on the magical property of @4thlinetheatre was pure delight. Although I'm not teaching public drop in classes yet #newmom , it felt SO good to be connected with community through the artistry of therapeutic yoga. #free2bwellness#consent#Repost @kawartha_sexual_assault_centre
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Today we were working with @4thlinetheatre in anticipation for their exciting premiere of Judith Thompson’s #WhoKilledSnowWhite - Centre staff and volunteers are participating in supporting rehearsals and sharing resources on show nights all through August #endsexualviolence#endgenderbasedviolence#webelieveyou#metoo#wesupportsurvivors#TimesUp
Sometimes those #relationshipgoals posts make it hard for us to see or identify an unhealthy relationship. Teens, come by tomorrow at Sterling Municipal Library @baytownlibrary for an open discussion on technology, media, and healthy relationships. Swipe for more details!
"Time and again, people transcend the paralyzing effects of psychological pain when they have sufficient contact with someone who can hear them empathically." Marshall Rosenberg, Nonviolent Communication
This summer, our staff will be reading "Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall Rosenberg. What is on your summer reading list?