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🇧🇷 PARE POR UM SEGUNDO E PENSE!
Nós gastamos mais energia tentando provar algo para alguém do que trabalhando em prol dos nossos objetivos. Tudo bem se as pessoas não entenderem. Tudo bem se elas não sentirem o que você sente. Tudo bem se você tentar e as coisas derem errado de primeira... é por isso que o dom da vida e as experiências acarretaras por ela são únicas, individuais e intransferíveis.
Viva mais você, viva menos os outros. .
🇺🇸 STOP FOR A SECOND AND THINK!
We spend more energy trying to prove something to someone than working toward our goals. It's okay if people do not understand. It's okay if they do not feel what you feel. It's okay if you try and things go wrong at first ... that's why the gift of life and the experiences brought by it are unique, individual and non-transferable.
Live more you, live the others less.
With a basic understanding of how our reality works, how it is influenced and how you can influence it, what does it really mean?🤔
Your life is always going through everything, at every moment.
The choices picked & the results because of it are always occuring, its just up to you to align with the outcome. -
Vibrations are infinite, and each note can be further broken down which means everything is infinite until we breathe life into it through our sentient observation.
You are literally the one the makes or breaks how things pan out! -
Going to keep sitting there now that you know this?
How do you connect to your partner?
When do you feel close?
What forms of intimacy do you nourish in your relationship?
One form is not better than the other - however one form may feel better to you and one form may feel better to your partner.
How do you honor your intimacy needs and also honor your partner's intimacy needs?
In planning for our Division for Early Childhood (DEC) pre-conference session, @maitri_32000 and I worked on a handout with examples of how to ask questions instead of directing and correcting.
As we discuss in Pre-K Teach and Play Podcast Episode 24 (https://prekteachandplay.com/podcat24), directing and correcting can add to the stressors children experience, and take them outside the "green zone" of optimal learning.
This work didn't make our final cut regarding session content; however, if you request all of our handouts and resources... we'll send you the handout. It includes specific examples of how to ask better questions as a "replacement behavior" to directing and correcting.
Go to https://prekteachandplay.com/2018-division-for-early-childhood/ (link in bio). And speaking of sending you stuff...we'll be sending bonus resources right up until our session on October 23rd...
Today's bonus is what I've learned from Laura about PDA and PDA+. #ECSE#ECE#EarlyIntervention#professionaldevelopment#conference#mindfulness#wholechild#inclusion#prektip#pdtip#therealcommoncore#sel#consciousness#awareness#emotionalintelligence
🍃 If you think of the ego as a bad thing, as something to be gotten rid of, then this won't make any sense. But if you think of the ego in psychological terms, it is simply our self-identity.⠀
Looking at the ego this way, we can either have a healthy ego, an excessive ego (an over-inflated sense of self-importance), or a deficient ego (low self-esteem and sense of self-worth).⠀
The function of shame is to keep the ego in check, which is why shame causes us to hang our head, and why embarrassment makes us want to hide. That pulling inward is the feeling of humility - which is healthy when it is warranted.⠀
Conversely, anger is all about defending and affirming our sense of self, and pushing our boundaries out when they’ve been encroached upon. This feels has the opposite effect as shame: strengthening our ego and making us feel bigger and more empowered.⠀
Together, they keep the ego healthy and balanced. Not too big, not too small, but just right.⠀
Which of these two emotions might you need more, to bring your ego into this sweet spot?
My two oldest brothers are in prison. Three life sentences each. They have been in prison for 14 years. About 6 months into their sentences, I finally wrote them. It was an ugly letter. I wrote it from a place of complete pain. I was, to say the least, devastated. Not to get into any details, they had killed a man. And it ripped our family and small community apart.
That letter added to the chain of pain. I didn’t know how to deal with my emotions and I looked up to my brothers, so of course in that letter I told them all about it. I never got a letter back acknowledging what I had said, nor did I really expect to. I had received a few birthday cards for a couple years, they stopped because I never sent any back. I have spoken to my brothers here and there, only by chance of being at my grandparents at just the right moment. It would be awkward.
I have gone back and forth, up and down, and all around about writing them again, yet I knew that each attempt was not the right time. I hadn’t forgiven myself and them.
Fast forward to now, I have done a lot of self reflection and inner work. I have found the place where the real FACES of life resides: forgiveness, appreciation, compassion, empathy and self love. I know how to hold better boundaries for myself, and not wallow in hindsight, yet be completely present. This has taken time, research and introducing new ways of thinking.
I know now that I cannot add value to others without taking care of my mind, body and soul first. Without this journey, I would have not been who I have become today. I have found my many FACES of life and surrendered to their messages. Because of this steady knowing, I finally wrote my brothers. It was short, but valuable. I know they will write me back and we can continue to communicate. And my greatest request is that they truly feel the love that I can offer them now.
From a young age, we create stories out of our experiences. We draw meaning from the stories we tell ourselves about what’s happened to and around us. We take the meaning we make from what we go through and mold it into truth (maybe you needed to be perfect out of fear of not being enough… maybe you learned to put the needs of others before your own… maybe you learned it wasn’t safe to express your feelings… maybe you learned you couldn’t trust others to hold space for you… maybe you learned vulnerability is weakness… maybe you learned to stay quiet and small…). We then carry these “truths” with us, often unaware of how they got there. We carry them into relationships, into our self-worth, into every aspect of our lives.
As we get older, we can start to recognize that perhaps, the truths we’ve been clinging to are simply stories we told ourselves in order to feel safe -- to protect ourselves from getting hurt. We can begin using a wider lens to view our stories, to get curious about them, and to question whether or not we need to carry them anymore. We can start creating new, more nourishing truths for ourselves.
Letting go of the stories we’ve been telling ourselves that are no longer supportive to our well-being is difficult. It means reckoning with what we’ve always known and realizing we may have been wrong. It means taking responsibility over our inner life. It means being willing to look at the parts of ourselves we’ve kept hidden because we’re finally ready to shift, to pivot, to alter the course. It means allowing ourselves to feel the things we might have been masking or numbing or running from. It means looking at the shitty stuff that’s happened in our lives and honoring the way it has found a home in our soul – while also honoring how we want to carry it moving forward, or how we want to let it go.
As you navigate the stories and truths you’re carrying, I invite you to be tender and gentle with yourself. The process of coming face to face with your inner experiences takes immense bravery and strength. When it feels hard, remember self-compassion. And when it feels overwhelming, remember that you are never alone. Happy Friday, sweet friends. ❤️
It’s been an interesting week where I’ve had to deal with an abrasive and challenging personality. Unfortunately, my children were exposed to this hostility, but fortunately they witnessed their mom remain calm and collected in the face of aggression. Not having an emotional reaction to hateful comments was used as a teachable moment for them, and I’m thankful for that. -
I’ve been dealing with it both in conversations with other parties and internally - and it has really unsettled me. Frustrated with this generation of entitlement and self-righteousness, and finding myself in a place where I have to defend my character because of someone else’s anger crusade. Having to forgive someone who will likely never apologize or rectify the toxic situation they’ve created. -
And, then I woke up to this. My 9-year old daughter put it all in perspective and I realized how much more wisdom and kindness she has than many adults I know. I’m so thankful she, and all my kids, understand that some people....just aren’t nice. She gets it...and I’m thankful for her reminder to ignore the noise and keep going. She loves me and that’s what matters. She’s one amazing kid ❤️ -##- #emotionalintelligence#eq#love#wisdom#teachablemoments#bekind#dontlie#character#integrity#honesty#remaincalm#forgive#keepgoing#kids#daughter#unconditional#smartcookie
With the Mate. AND With our Hearts.
This was my answer in a twin flame group about the presence of struggle and pain, but, in truth it's the entire struggle for ALL human beings living with and trying to relate to the many dimensions of love that flow through us, in EVERY relationship. Romantic or not. "With respect, I can maybe add an addendum to it to help translate what getting out of "locked" 3D emotional love "can" look like.
It's a perspective (like everything else I cover in my book) and perspectives can grow and alter reality.
Divine masculine and Divine feminine energy, which is something we want to be living through for a divine Union to work, is largely parental.
Our divine energy "fosters" growth and health. That is a natural state I believe we all have within us, and our inability to process certain 3D emotions keeps us from embodying it.
That's what I believe is the EXACT thing that we're working on right now, whether we know it or not. <3
The ability to reflex out into a divinely energetic role in the midst of fear and chaos. It's why I put "Break In Moments" and "Pivot Points" in my book.
We can embody parental energy FOR our mates (or anyone's) circumstance much easier than we are now, and without having to escape the 3D into a realm of logic and rules. It can and needs to be an organic shift in perspective.
It's not as far away as it looks. The whole thing. <3"" "World Parenting" WITHOUT stuffing our ego is how we get as close to unconditional love as is possible. The second we stuff our ego we close off certain parts of our body, and retreat into our minds. That's escape. Not presence.
We have to move through all the perspectives. Why? Because we are parenting ourselves too, and shunning our ego is incompatible with fully and unconditionally loving ourselves, thus it is incompatible with loving another fully.
Clarity. All dimensions in divine care. <3
Link in bio.
THIS needs to be a bumper sticker and refrigerator magnet. #innerwork#emotionalintelligence#Repost @thee_gunnshow
Triggers reveal to us emotional imbalances that we have to heal within ourselves.. Don’t let ego win by saying these things are a product of how ppl/situations/society did you or just “who you are”. Know that these are ego and internal issues and you can be free from them once you acknowledge them as your own toxic mental parasites.. Which are your triggers?! Honestly.
Affirm: I create nourishing + supportive environments for myself. My mental, physical, + Spiritual well-being are important to me. I allow love + peace into my life by wisely choosing my lovers, friends, + surroundings.
🌹 Comment below if you affirm this into your reality NOW.
do you have a morning routine? do you intentionally set the tone for your day?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I've never been a morning person - ever - at all. as a 5-year-old I laid on my bed and held up one limb at a time so that my mom could dress me! it's always been a struggle to pry myself out of bed and start on each day.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
since beginning the work-from-home lifestyle I've implemented a new morning routine that I loooove - and I wish I'd started doing this LONG ago! it takes about 10 minutes (though sometimes much longer) and is super simple. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I roll out of bed after a great snuggle with my dogs and my man (checking off the "feel loved" box in my to do list). one of us makes coffee for us (checking off the "service" box). and then - Colin plays his phone game, ha, and I sit on the couch with a mug of coffee or green tea and my journal, and I write about things I am grateful for. things I am excited about. things I am hoping for. (in that order. always with the lens of gratitude.)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
and usually Lilo is sprawled on half of my lap, which makes it extra cute and wonderful.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
the tone of gratitude makes each day so much more inviting and welcoming and warm. try it out for a few days and see how it goes for you!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
love youuu! #yxe#yxecoach#lifecoach#intuitive#intuitivecoaching#soulcoaching#burnout#burntout#goalsetting#lettinggo#intuition#support#selfesteem#selfworth#selflove#selfworthbootcamp#selfloveclub#selfesteem#selfworthcoach#uofsask#saskatooncoach#identitycoach#emotionalintelligence
"Controlling that impulsive action or reaction and gathering more facts, including relevant emotions, makes for better decisions in our relationships" | Read more in my latest Luv Life Coaching blog post - "Emotional Intelligence for Couples: Part 4 Decision Making"
ARE THEY AN ASSET OR LIABILITY//
Ask yourself what is it that the individuals in my life offer me? Do they offer Love, comfort, stability? Or do they offer me feelings of insecurity, lack, anger, judgment. We always have a say in our relationships are run. This is why boundaries are so fun! It is how we co create with the universe. When you say no the universe gets the hint. What are you feeding yourself?
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🧚🏽♀️ XoXo Nef Arya Anahata