ask yourself this question. and don't answer with things like "because i was bullied." or "because my parents abuse me". yes those are legitimate reasons, i'm definetly not saying that they're not! not at all! but i'm not asking you to look for the external triggers. because afterall, amd i dont mean to sound condescending or mean, but no matter how much people hurt you, they're not the ones holing the knife to your skin and screaming "CUT!". not that they don't play a significant role in this, trust me, i know they do! my self harm was always a direct reation to my emotions which were often caused and controlled by the actions of others... but i'm asking you for the thoughts and feelings that go on inside. what are you hoping to get out of it? does it work? does it give you control?
i am not trying to make you feel like you're silly for coping this way. i know how it helpsin a way. i do. and i fully understand how much pain someone has to be in to cause themselves more and different pain. and i am not trying to belittle that. i am asking you to try and understand this in yourself.
for me whenever i had the urge to hurt myself i wasn't thinking about anything but how and when and where i could do it. and after i didn't want to think of it anymore...
self harm is different for different people and it is motivated differently too. we all want to get something out of it which is why we do it and what we want to get varies so alternate, safer coping mechanisms will vary too. and to figure those out we need to get down to the root of our self harm and ask ourselves that "why?". theres some soul searching involved because, at least in my own personal experiences, i didnt want to face myself and my issues. i was content with blaming others actions only... recovery from self harm isn't just stopping the harming; it's understanding it and why we did it. so that we can try to find better ways of coping that work for us and learn something about ourselves in the process.
So as you may or may not know, Kobes been through a bit of a rough patch in recent weeks. The end of last week and this week has really turned around for him. With alot of changes around home and school, things are looking up. .
A big thing identified was him wanting to work. He needed to feel like he had purpose in life. So.... on tuesday, a long time friend agreed to give him a job! Give him a purpose and a reason to wake up!
So what job do you get an autistic kid with (diagnosed) OCD... the dirtiest job in the country.... DAIRY FARMING! .
He was ALOT out of his comfort zone... and didnt say alot while there, but i could see that (despite there being cow shit everywhere = & everything but clean) he was enjoying himself... he felt like he was contributing... helping!!! .
Im not sure that she knows (or will ever understand) how much it means to myself and debbie, but how this kind gesture and willingness to help has potentially saved our child's life. .
His jobs included, spraying a magical potion on the titties post milking, and carrying the milk and grain to the bubba cows.... ALTHOUGH, he has told everyone he MILKED 205 cows, cleaned the holding yard, moved the 3 bulls into the paddock to "do their thing" (repeating what narelle said) and fed 70 calves.
So @rellzy5 i want to publicly thank you for what you have done.... your a diamond in amongst the rough... -----------------------------------
First shameless selfie on my new feed. I took this photo when I was having a good day and immediately hated it because you can tell how tired I look. Struggling with your mental health can be exhausting at times but the truth is we should never give up the fight because at some point we will become more balanced, more happy and more in control. For some this means finding peace through yoga and meditation, for others it means finding exercise a good source of therapy and for others still medication might be the fix you need. There are so many different ways to help you heal and grow, you just have to keep trying a little bit every day.
For me, I used to find yoga, cardio and meditation worked but right now I am so judgemental of myself that I daren’t try them in case I’m not as good as I used to be. Instead I’m trying medication and walking everyday. I’ve been doing this for 4 days now and don’t feel any different but I know I need to give it time. I don’t know who I will be when I get over my depression and anxiety or whether it will stay with me for life in some way but I am nervous and hopeful for a brighter future. One step at a time I hope to become fit and healthy, to be happy everyday, to be more motivated and able to help others and to become a little more sociable again. Today I am grateful for having hope because it means that things will get better if I can hold on to it and keep believing these things will come true. I’m also grateful for:
🐡 waking up at a reasonable hour and not having to drive to work today
🐡 a special friend’s voice message yesterday that made me laugh and feel fuzzy inside. 🐡 a work trip to London as it will give me some time to myself to relax for a little bit.
Never give up on yourself and cling onto whatever hope you have every single day. You will come out the other side eventually and when you do you will be amazed at how your journey has changed you for the better 💗
Every connection I've missed was born from a feeling that I did not deserve the people who took interest in me. It's caused a lot of pain. To be confident seems to be an obligation more than a choice. But, it is one I now keep. Do you? 🖤 @rafael_caslas
Part of todays self care challenge is to light a candle.
Take some time today to light a candle if you don't have that maybe you can use a incense stick.
Once you have lit the candle notice the smells. This can be something to add to your me time. 📸 @yankeecandle
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Hoe vaak kijk je in de spiegel en denk je: “Wat zie ik er mooi uit”? Hoe vaak gun je jezelf tijd om van je eigen gezelschap te genieten? Hoe vaak raak je jezelf aan om die liefde aan jezelf te geven die alleen jij weet te bevredigen? Hoe vaak lach je met jezelf? Hoe vaak laat je jouw emoties toe? Hoe vaak vergeef je jezelf voor de dingen die je niet meer kan veranderen? Hoe vaak accepteer je jezelf volledig? En hoe vaak zeg je tegen jezelf dat je van jezelf houd? Vertel mij, hoe vaak doe je dit weleens?
Stap voor stap, begin ik weer van mezelf te houden. Stap voor stap, zijn er weer goede dagen. Stap voor stap, accepteer ik mezelf weer steeds meer. En daar geniet ik nu optimaal van. Ik houd alle eigenschappen die mij Nydia maken. Ik vergeef en omhels mijn flaws. Ook de imperfecties, de donkere kant van mijzelf, omhels ik met alle liefde die ik heb. Ik heb plezier met mijn eigen gezelschap en ik lach vaak genoeg met mezelf. Ik heb de knop in mijn hoofd eindelijk weer kunnen omzetten. Er zijn nog wel heel wat prikkels wat ik nog steeds niet goed aan kan, maar wat is het toch ontzettend fijn dat ik weer wat meer mezelf voel en echt kan genieten met wie ik ben, wat ik doe en hoe ik eruit zie. Ik ben meer bewust met wat ik wel en niet aankan. En stap voor stap kom ik weer uit mijn schulp 🐚
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Today we launched our #HERETOBE campaign designed to help eliminate the stigma and stereotypes surrounding mental health. One in five Australians experience a mental health illness each year. Many don’t seek help. Here are our patients, family and friends, sharing their stories and battles in hope of helping others. We take you past surface level and dig deeper into their lives.
Hear to be supported, hear to be heard, here to be accepted.
history by this wild life.
this wild life.
I don’t remember when. I remember how. after a heart wrenching fight with my partner at the time, he had walked out to smoke some cigarettes. I stayed put, laying in our bed, staring at the ceiling. tears. lots of them. my heart was broken. so was his. we’ve got a lot of history, but there’s too much space. [between him and me.] history by this wild life. this wild life. I will forever be grateful for kevin and anthony because their lyrics helped me understand what I was feeling in the relationship, as well as what my partner was probably feeling too. the fighting, the broken trust, the back and forth, all the pain and hurt. it was not okay. we stopped being good for one another. four heartbreaking words: we almost made it. we would of been two years in a few days. and having our story come to an end was [and still is] the hardest thing I had to go through. a part of myself will always love this person, as one does. he was there for me when absolutely nobody was. but this is my letting go post. I may or may not delete it. history by this wild life. this wild life. [@thiswildlife]