So, continuing in my research and practice, I seemed to have gone #fullcircle . Years ago I had a loss, that felt like my arm had been chopped off without any #anaesthesia . My mind was like puppy dog on speed and had #broken down, as if the fuse was ripped out out me , unplugging me from the #trauma . I tried many things along with prescribed drugs, that had me walking around like a pill popping zombie. I went away to #Malaysia for a break and forgot my pills and started to process what had happened and started to make peace with it all. On arriving back home I felt #stronger in my mind, but felt I just needed a focus. I started baking and #decorating#cakes , which became a kind of #anchor for me. So, the last few weeks have been quite a #challenge , but Making #peace with the events and actions of others, I bring myself to #indulge in one of my #coping#strategies ..making cakes...!!!
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Day 3: This trip has been absolutely unforgettable and a true awakening for me. I need to give a huge thanks to everyone who helped me accomplish this dream of a journey thru the Midwest & EastCoast @tylerellrich @schmidtys_ramp_and_camp @pamelavelasquez @inline__warehouse @rickylaway @johannyvelasquez @nysecretweapon
Realizing that I need to be handling the rain in life with more grace and peace. Been stressed out over the rain drops in life. I’m learning that it’s necessary for me to practice calming and slowing down through focusing on my breathing, praying, asking for help in regular crazy busy life so that when the storms hit I will hopefully more be prepared to cope. Accepting I can’t do it alone has helped me be able to consider making time for dancing. #slowdown#coping
Have you put time aside for yourself lately?
Turn your phone off, put some soft music on and hangout with yourself.
If you find hanging out with yourself kind of weird then take the time to write about your feelings or things that have been bothering you lately.
When I start writing about my frustrations I find that sometimes I end up writing how I am truly feeling.
(And drink some water!) #mentalhealth#selfcare#coping#copingskills#depression#anxiety
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“Love yourself first.” This advice is given often, but what does this really mean? What does loving yourself look like? What does it feel like? Where do you start? Loving yourself is great advice but not many are taught how to achieve this. There are so many approaches, but let’s start with 3 simple steps: 1) self-talk, 2) self-care, 3) self-support.
1) Self-talk: Shift your mindset to loving and accepting yourself, flaws and all. Cease any self-talk that involves put downs, criticisms and doubts. These thoughts have no place in the ‘love-yourself’ equation. Introduce positive affirmations and caring self-talk daily.
2) Self-care: Feeling a sense of deep care for oneself and looking after yourself accordingly. It’s easy to neglect healthy daily routines, physical needs, and emotional health. We can let small routines go and justify that we don’t need it. But loving yourself requires putting in the effort towards good habits, just for your own benefit, no matter who’s watching.
2) Self-support: Life will still find a way to hurt you, and when that happens be sure to nurture yourself through the pain just as you would for a child. Acknowledge that you were hurt and offer yourself care and support in response. Avoid overlooking your pain or waiting for others to rescue you. Nurture and support yourself accordingly.
Alcohol was my most toxic coping mechanism for years. It numbed the mental/emotional pain and replaced it with a drunken stupor. It was my go-to method for coping with depression. Very few people in my life knew the extent to which I drank: often alone, going through bottles of hard liquor by myself. Every day I was either drunk or hungover. Today, my alcohol consumption has improved. I don't think complete sobriety is a realistic goal for me, but I am trying to drink more responsibly and not rely on alcohol to cope with depressive episodes. Progress is the key.
This picture was taken when I met with a couple of friends after work one day. We ate delicious food and each ordered a drink. This one was mine, and I remember thinking it looked pretty (I definitely ate those decorative blueberries) so I took a picture. Times like these are what I want my experiences with alcohol to be like from now on: enjoying time spent together with friends.
Do you feel lonely sometimes? What do you do with your loneliness? We all learned how to manage or cope with feelings of loneliness. Often times we respond to our loneliness in unhealthy ways by trying to shut it down versus listening to what it might be telling us about the longings of our heart.