I haven't even got it in me right now to try and pretend I haven't been going through some shit lately. Between anxiety and bpd it's been a roller-coaster despite a brief glimmer of sunshine I've been a bit of a mess between mood swings, disassociation, anxiety, anxiety dreams, brain fog, the list goes on. I'm just so lack lustre over past week in the grips of a bout of depression that comes along with all of it. Mental health isn't romantic it's ugly and cruel and no one ever really recovers we just get better at handling it all mostly if your lucky.
Let’s talk about A N X I E T Y.
Unfortunately, it’s not something that is new to me. I first really noticed it when I left for college, but I have a feeling it had been there for quite some time prior to that.
For those of you who don’t know my story...I was in the room, alone, with my dad when he suddenly went into cardiac arrest. I was just ten years old, but I remember that night like it was yesterday.... To say that moment doesn’t haunt me would be a lie. The flashbacks aren’t as frequent, but I still have a lot of PTSD about it all, and have a REEEALLY strong feeling my anxiety stems from it.
You see, I have a major fear of the unknown. But I also have a major fear of not living my life FULLY.
I’ve had a lot of triggers for my anxiety the last few weeks, but when I start feeling my heart race, or that sinking “elephant sitting on my chest” start to happen... I take a deep breath. I look at this little girl, or a picture of her, and I remember.... I remember that it’s going to be OK. & I remember that life is too short to let my choices reflect my fears, rather than my hopes and dreams. What I choose in life may not always be the socially acceptable “norm”, but you best believe it’ll always be what’s best for ME, my husband and our sweet baby girl. Oh...and our fur babies. Can’t forget those cuties ❤️ Always remember, being vulnerable and addressing your mental health does NOT make you weak❤️
Green is the colour of nature: its calming shade is meant to elicit feelings of tranquility, peace, balance, restoration, and safety. It also symbolizes growth and wealth💶 🍃
Love nature, get some green into your life💚 🌱🍏🌲✅
A great book for the anxious: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson...... have you read it?! Update: I see this post has offended a few people. I can actually see how it can come across that way when I reread it— legit. However, I’m not going to take it down, because that’s not how I meant it to come across, and I didn’t mean it as an insult—Clearly those who have read my previous posts, they know where my heart is. I’ve had a lifetime experience with anxiety and this is not meant to be offensive. Trust me I know it’s not “that easy”. I feel like a lot of us have anxiety because we care so much— (a good thing, but can be painful) so I love having a good “fuck it mantra” when I realize I’m worrying too much. It has helped me, as has the book I recommended — which I still recommend. It’s empowering...I also have to accept that not every post will please everyone.♥️ .
"Courage is not the absence of fear, nor strength no weaknesses. Courage is doing something even if you are scared, and there is strength in not hiding weakness."
So... Having a pretty bad anxiety episode today, due to the heat and stress. So I used an hour of overtime to go home early.
Please take care of yourselves. Sometimes pushing yourself is the best answer, sometimes it's rest. Find your balance, you're doing well.
I've been dealing with skipped heart beats and random palpitations on and off for over 6 years, had tests done they didn't find anything serious.... It might be anxiety, PTSD from past trauma, over active vagus nerve.... I don't know. It scares me so badly it runs my life sometimes. I'm hoping that I'll start feeling better from getting rid of all the sugar and carbs out of my diet. Anyone else have bad anxiety and the diet has helped them with the symptoms?
“ You’ve got this “ - Living with chronic anxiety is like being on a roller coaster. Some days you feel like flying, you think you can do anything and you manage yourself pretty good. Some days, you just feel oppressed, it’s hard to breathe you’ve got this storm inside you and you try so hard just to go through your day.
Just a reminder that even during those days when everything seems so overwhelming, you’ve got this, you can and you will get over this. So keep your head up and keep going, keep following your dreams keep working hard for what you want and what you deserve. It doesn’t matter how many time you fall as long as you get up and try again. Living with a mental illness is not easy but remember that you are loved and that you will have a better day.
I had chronic anxiety for years. Terrified of everything, my own thoughts, everything around me. From the time I awoke to the moment my mind finally rested I was in a heightened state of alert. It was the most exhausting period of my life. I was also trying to raise 3 small children.
As I decided I'd had enough of this vicious cycle I wanted to get to the root cause of my fears.
I realised that my fears were based on a world I was not supported through as a child. Years of abuse and parents who did not protect me from the perpetrators created a world of fear. Created a belief that the world was not safe. That I was alone to deal with all the unknowns on my own.
As I grew up particularly after becoming a mum I realised I was not equipped with skills to handle any problems. I'd had no guidance growing up. Nothing to build upon from my foundational years to user when I was an adult. Consequently everything scared me.
To overcome this meant I had to create a safe world for myself and my children. I had to redefine what safety and security meant for me. It took a lot of intentional practice..more on my strategies later.
My anxiety was absolutely valid but there was a reason to it. And when I could find the root cause of it i could work to overcome it. I could make peace with it.
Thankfully I did. I no longer suffer with chronic anxiety or panic attacks. I regained my life for me and my children.
My tip..look into your anxiety.
What are you afraid of? Where does that come from? What can you do to resolve it?
Happy Sunday! Something to ponder from Sarah Harnisch of Gameplan. She posted this on her fb page... so inspiring, keep reading! "A few words from Young Living's founder:
GARY YOUNG: I’ve been in this industry for nearly 35 years... I’ve watched companies start up and just boom for four, five, or six years and then collapse and go bankrupt; and then two weeks later, they’re across the street with a different name, a different shingle, in a rented building.
This is why when I started, you didn’t see a fancy building, you didn’t see a fancy sign. You certainly didn’t see fancy labels and fancy materials, because I didn’t build that way. I started below the frost level. I cleared the ground, I started planting plants, because I knew the future that would sustain Young Living forever would be the farms.
GARY ON THE YOUNG LIVING FARM IN CROATIA.
What we have today is something that no one else will ever be able to match. We have our farms, our distilleries, and our analytical laboratories. We know what we have, and it doesn’t matter what some people say other essential oil companies have. You must know—Young Living does not have any competitors. There are no competitors. What’s out there are companies that want to jump on the bandwagon—but they are not competitors. Competition is like two football teams playing on the same field. That’s competition.
Anyone who would compete with Young Living, would have to have farms, but then they would first have to have 30 years of experience. They would have to have laboratories and analytical chemists. They would have to know how to formulate and create new products. They would have to be able to write about research, scientific findings, and anything relating to the activities of Young Living. They would have to have a background and experience in natural medicine. There is nobody who can compete with Young Living in any of those areas.
Another way they can’t compete is that they don’t have YOU. We do!
I’d love to invite you to my team. I love Young Living more and more every day- I am so thankful for my oily life! 🙌🏽🌿
Where in your life do you feel lucky right now? It doesn't have to be a big thing. It could be the bed that you sleep in, a person in your life, something you like about yourself. Close your eyes and think about and feel this thing. Feel this thing in your heart until it begins to explode positive sensations within your body. If your really can't think of something, then make something up. Think of something you want, picture it, feel it, bask in it. I the end, the only reason we are looking for things in life is to elicit a feeling within. I actuality, you have the ability to feel that feeling right in this moment. Lucky you babe! 🍀
When I snuggle with this boy it's like nothing else in the world even matters. All the pain and anxiety just melts away in his presence. Who would ever think a tiny little creature could hold such power. His soul touches my soul every single day and I am so eternally grateful that this little guy came into my life.
A year ago today he chose me. It was a normal day. We decided to go look at the bunnies because it always cheered me up to go see them, little did I know I'd be bringing this fella home with me. Thank you Opie for everything you do for me, you're literally my world and I can't even imagine my life without you now. Thank you for choosing me, we've both had our little issues but we both take care of each other.
My little soul mate ❤️ #1year#ayeartogether#animaltherapy#myhero#soulmates#chronicanxiety#chronicfatiguesyndrome#myalgicencephalomyelitis#mewarrior#mentalhealth#invisibleillness#heropet
As One we succeed to drive forward. As One we collectively have the strength that could virtually move anything. As One we are united and remain unified in love and positivity. Of course the negative ways of the world try to infect our very own minds, souls, and lives. We must reject negativity to have the control it does over so many. We must embrace positivity and all that is good. If you see someone who may need a hand, help them out. If you see some complete a difficult situation or overcome an obstacle in their life, give them a pat on the back and some congratulations! And most importantly, if you see someone down, quiet, and shunned.... Attempt to reach out. The Anchors of this world weigh us down sometimes, and sometimes we get stuck. That is why it is our duty as a fellow brother/sister to at least try and talk to the individual. To maybe give them a hand up literally, yes, but so much more is needed than that. Understanding. Compassion. Empathy. Community. Caring. Kindness. I'm not talking about giving the local drunk $10 to get some booze (although if he's honest with me, I may). I'm talking about those of us who go unnoticed. Who go to work. Who go to school. Who may even have "friends". These are the people that suffer in silence. I know them well. I was and still am one of them. You see, we're usually not the best conversation starters and be shy at times of sadness. So, sometimes pouring your heart out to a perfect stranger who is not only willing to listen, but willing to give feedback. Just that person setting a positive connection in motion is going to spark some good energy. Even though it may not be much, it is positive. And it's a spark. It only takes one light to make a ray of hope through even the darkest of times. Hang in there. We are all here for one another and we have to realize this. Please, I beg of you... STICK AROUND! #suicideawareness#suicideprevention#weallhurt#letstalkaboutit#toomanygone#toomuchpain#sadness#depression#mentalillness#ptsd#mbp#chronicanxiety#schizophrenia#youvegotafriend#asone#unitedwestand#dividedwefall#wegottakeepthefaith#raybeez
Change Your Habits, Change Your Life by Brian Pennie (@brianpennie78)
We are what we repeatedly do, excellence is therefore not an act, but a habit” – Aristotle
Negative people like to complain and criticise. Anxious people are prone to worry. Positive people are optimistic. And healthy people tend to be health conscious.
Our defining characteristics are not set in stone however.
I was crippled with chronic anxiety and addiction for most of my life, butnow consider myself the one of the most positive, energetic, and carefree people I know.
Read more at https://www.alustforlife.com/mental-health/well-being/change-your-habits-change-your-life
Let me start by saying there is no filter here, no make up, and I’m bloated from my period. With that said.... i think my skin looks pretty amazing. I can owe some thanks to this sauna and #saltcave meditation and treatment is insanely #beneficial !
There are many saunas at spa castle.... each do a diffent source of cleansing and benefit for you. I am not a #heat person... and we are talking about like 150* and higher or a bit lower. Over the years of training in #meditation and controlling my #breathing .... I’m able to stay in these saunas longer and let me tell you... I reached my #alltimerecord now. No shame..... I sweat ALOT .... I’m a sweaty Italian and facts are facts. But sweating as much as I did ..... that’s a SHIT ton of #toxins leaving the body and I feel extremely #rejuvenate . This is something that has helped my #chronicanxiety without having to take my meds.
So if anything else can relate.... try all of this out!!! It really does magic for your health both #physical and #mental .
This sauna is strictly build out of #himilayansalt bricks .... just like the popular #himilayansaltlamps going around. But times this by like a kajillion 🔥
I could probably do this over and over again with fictional characters I associate with, admire, am like in real life eyc, but these were LITERALLY the first three that came to my mind. Bruce Banner is who I am like around people I don't know. My shyness, my darker past, my conflict and awkwardness. If I'm not saying much, it's because I'm constantly panicking and worried. King Julien is who I am like around people I know, I'm a singing, dancing, random noise making, annoying butt. I usually have something on my head, not always a hat. Also lemurs are the cutest. And then Casanova, the TV version, not the real life cousin shagging pedo (goes without saying). If I could travel in time, I'd go back to Paris or Versailles, overthrow the monarchy, and assume my rightful place. I want to wear powdered wigs and silk and be fed grapes and hot chocolate by twinks while I sit on a throne. It's not too much to ask, is it? #charactercomparison#threefictionalcharacters#casanova#kingjulien#brucebanner#chronicanxiety
Aren’t Sundays just the “sweetest thing” 💕?
It’s funny, if I look back about 2 yrs ago, I used to love the idea of Sunday but I was always riddled with anxiety 🙍🏼♀️.
I was always anxious about what I hadn’t done over the weekend, anxious about how little sleep I got and anxious for Monday because I had to go back to another job that was sucking the life outta me.
I went through yrs and yrs of this, as someone who already had chronic anxiety, Sunday’s usually kicked my butt 🤦🏼♀️.
When Sunday should have been that time for me to chill, recharge and self-care I was usually a ball of nerves & tears.
I couldn’t be present, I kept thinking about the past and the future...Monday.
Fast forward, to now, well that just isn’t me anymore and it’s such a relief ☺️.
Sure not every time is perfect, but I’ve learned how to manage that anxiety and think differently + love myself in a way that I never had.
How did I go from anxious Sunday Miya to chilling & pancaking 🥞?
👉🏼 To name a few things...
Step ONE, was realizing that I wasn’t happy and that I needed to take a leap and do what I loved, once and for all. I needed to take back control of things and do something for me, truly me.
Step 2, was all the inner work. Oh so much inner work. It’s a non-stop gig.
Step 3, back to the “present” thing. Learning to be more present. Enjoy the moment, soak it all in.
It can be real hard, I get it.
I’ll admit, this week I had some struggles with this.
Step 4, letting myself off the hook. Letting go of everything that may or may not have gotten done. Letting go of plans, letting things just happen.
Sure sometimes you have specific things to do, but it’s not being so attached with outcomes and such.
Step 5, chilling the f*ck out. If sleep is what I need, then sleep + self-care and listening to what your body needs.
The amount of people that have told me over the years that they experience some sort of anxiety on Sunday is pretty wild (have you?). Seems to be the norm. huh 🤔
I am here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be this way, from experience. Check in with yourself and try a few of these steps, see where it gets you.
Things can be sweeter 💕.
NO WONDER. "The school is also an instituition which unbalances those most prone to psychosomatic disorders. The state of nervous tension in which they are kept by oral tests, compositions, examinations, the discipline of certain autocratic teachers, the shortage of physical activities and fresh air, the threats of demanding parents, and also the excessive desire of some children to do well, finally causes in many pupils chronic anxiety which affects the proper functioning of the internal organs. Quite apart from bedwetting of preschool-family origin, which may be abnormally prolonged by situations which repeatedly cause anxiety, there are many cases of headaches, digestive troubles, colitis, cardiac erethism and dermatitis which miraculously disappear during the holidays." - on pg 7 of danger: SCHOOL! by the IDAC team (founded by Paulo Freire and others in Geneva), republished in India by Other India Press and Earthcare Books.
When I am having an anxiety attack it feels like someone punched me in the stomach, and I can’t catch my breath; usually I’ve worked myself up to that point... I’m learning how to catch my breath and coach myself down from the mountain that is my anxiety. How do you try to calm yourself? I literally tell myself, “ok, you need to chill ma!” Doesn’t always work but at least I have learned to identify the feelings directly before an anxiety attack, so that I know how to better handle it. #mentalhealth#chronicanxiety#talkaboutit#anxietyrelief
We are SO excited for tonight's #wcw on #theredbraproject YouTube channel!! Tonight, we'll chat with the awe - inspiring Allison Mathis Jones. A basketball wife, curly girl, brain tumor survivor, and self care advocate on a journey towards becoming the best "me" she can be by pursuing spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical wellness.
@allisonmathisjones shares her experiences with the hope to inspire others to invest time and energy in their relationships, mental health, and overall well-being.
Allison has found that self-care and faith in God has helped her begin to cope with her chronic anxiety, which explain why both are such an important part of her personal journey.
Eeeekkkk and we get to talk with her all about her story & journey!! Can hardly wait! 💜
Tonight is going to be SO good! We are honored to have Allison as our guest.
Subscribe to our channel (link in bio) for your reminder! See you, soon!
Some thoughts regarding ANXIETY on one of my golf course runs last week. ⛳️ _
The same run that @brendanlinder got into one of his panicked states and went driving all over the course looking for me because he thought I got stolen for the millionth time 🤣
Those with anxiety know that it consumes a MAJOR amount of mental and physical energy leaving only exhaustion and fear behind. These persistent thoughts give weight to habits in our minds in the same way as exercising a muscle.
I thought, why not redirect this same energy and throw it all into actions and thoughts that will build a resilient mindset that is also fluid, a positive outlook, gratitude , a relaxation state and to things that could make me feel good. 🌸
It’s not about squashing the thoughts and working harder to get rid of them or be better , do better. That’s just anxiety creating more anxiety. 😖
It’s about repurposing all that energy into something more helpful to you and building NEW mental muscles and making these stronger over time. 🧠
Have a beautiful Monday honey’s 😘
ᴀ ᴍɪɴᴅ-ʙᴏᴅʏ ᴛʜᴇʀᴀᴘʏ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʀᴇᴀʟʟʏ ᴡᴏʀᴋs
Life gets stressful. Sometimes we say that a stressful event took a day off our life. We often can't control our stressors, but we can learn to respond to them in a healthier way. Biofeedback is proven to allow us to mindfully control our body's responses. Gaining control over our body's responses can improve our ✔️stress ✔️cardiovascular health ✔️chronic pain ✔️muscle tension and spasms ✔️anxiety, and more. For people who like to see real time data about their health and desire a more balanced, healthful life, these complimentary therapies are something to consider. There are lots of apps out there such as @heartmath for at home help.
sʏᴍᴘᴀᴛʜᴇᴛɪᴄ ɴᴇʀᴠᴏᴜs sʏsᴛᴇᴍ ᴀᴋᴀ ғɪɢʜᴛ ᴏʀ ғʟɪɢʜᴛ ʀᴇsᴘᴏɴsᴇ
In chronic anxiety or generalized anxiety, the fight or flight response is in overdrive. People were created to experience this response in times of danger, not in day-to-day life. This response is shown with symptoms such as tachycardia, hypertension, sweating, flushing, increased respiratory rate, and more. Research has shown that a person can control this nervous system response when given feedback of its functioning, such as through biofeedback.
ᴍʏ ᴇxᴘᴇʀɪᴇɴᴄᴇ ᴡɪᴛʜ ʙɪᴏғᴇᴇᴅʙᴀᴄᴋ ᴛʜᴇʀᴀᴘʏ, ʜᴇᴀʀᴛ ʀᴀᴛᴇ ᴠᴀʀɪᴀʙɪʟɪᴛʏ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴀɴxɪᴇᴛʏ
There are many types of biofeedback, but I will share my personal experiences. I had biofeedback sessions for chronic muscle spasms and biofeedback heart rate variability for anxiety management.
For the muscles spasms and pain, I had electrodes adhered to the muscles; the electrodes connected to a monitor showing the level of electrical activity which causes muscle contraction. When the muscles were tightly flexed, the screen would show the spike in electrical activity. I essentially learned how to release the tension by cause/effect and repitition while watching the screen to see my progress; this is called operant conditioning/positive reinforcement.
For the anxiety, I learned how to breath correctly. This sounds ridiculous, but if you observe how a child breathes compared to an adult, there is a BIG difference. Adults breath with their chest, and children breath with their ⬇️CONTINUE IN COMMENTS⬇️
I’ve dealt with varying degrees of anxiety since college. After the car accident I was in where I nearly drowned, I would get panic attacks so bad they would put me in the hospital. One second I would be fine and the next all hell would break loose. “Happy Feet” literally became my nickname! 😑
I worked really hard to get to the point where I wasn’t having panic attacks to that degree, but it never completely went away and it’s been something I’ve struggled with A LOT. .
When I started my health and fitness journey, one of the best things I discovered was that working out HELPED the anxiety A LOT! So much in fact that for the most part I have been able to stop taking medicine for it. 🙌🏻
Last night, everything was fine...until it wasn’t. There was nothing going on that should have made me feel anxious, but that’s a perfect example of how anxiety works. I knew the feeling of full body shaking and panic coming over me all too well and knew it was the beginning of a huge attack hitting. 😫
Without even thinking, I looked at Randall and said we need to take the pups for a walk NOW. I know I looked and sounded half crazy, but I knew I needed to get myself moving and get my mind elsewhere. It took a little bit, but it worked. In that moment, I was beyond grateful to have that TOOL to use. 🏋🏼♀️ Health and wellness is about SO much more than simply losing weight. Sometimes it’s about having tools at your disposal to help you get through the hard mental and emotional moments so that you CAN focus on the physical. 🌟
I used to think living a life overweight, unhappy and anxious was just how my life was meant to be, but that is so far from the truth. All it took was having the courage to take back control using a very SIMPLE system with real food, real people and real results. 💖
So tonight I have to ask you... #whynotyou You are meant to go through life happy and healthy and I KNOW you can do it! Let’s do this together! 👊🏻
Here’s a confession .. when Brendan told me we were going to Southbroom I had a few panic attacks and I cried the whole 2 days before we left. 😑
On a daily basis, anxiety about anything and everything plagues me, but nothing makes me more anxious than holidays, especially holidays I haven’t been able to plan weeks or months in advance. 🌊
This is difficult for most to understand because people loooooove holidays. However, a holiday can become an area of internal contention for someone suffering from anxiety; they desperately want to go away and relax, but this desire is countered by the panic that can set in about everything that goes along with being out of one’s comfort zone, routine and plunged into the arena of uncertainty. 😖
If you suffer from anxiety, it’s important not to avoid the things that you’re afraid of doing. You may even have to force yourself. Avoidance only creates negative reinforcement so moral of the story ,” IF YOU CAN’T BEAT FEAR, JUST DO IT SCARED.” Have a beautiful first day of a new month everyone 🌸😊
#tipstoovercometravelanxiety#holidayanxiety#dailyanxiety#freeyourmind#ocd#bdd#chronicanxiety#gad#edwarrior#followfordailymentalhealthtips#itsokaytobeanxious#youcanovercomeanything#mental health stigmas#doitscared#positivereinforcement#beatinganxiety#anxietyawareness
Today it's been HOT ☀️🔥
I'm pretty knackered from today and yesterday my GP came out and we chatted in the garden and looked at some more referrals. I've received my letter from Guys Hospital in London with their assessment of me which I'm pleased with.
My car is no more it's being scrapped but with alot of hard work phone calls etc I have found another just gotta wait a couple of weeks so will be a nice birthday gift to My self. I've had to spend alot of time on the phone cancelling breakdown covers etc which I'm so proud of my self whilst fighting through this severe patch of mental difficulties. I Had my "wellbeing" mental health phone call .. And surprise surprise the lady even said to me "I'm so sorry you've been made to jump through hoops and come through us as your level of mental health is too severe for us" what did me and my GP say 🤔 so they now forward me back on to adult mental health services if they send it back I will go crazy. Just so much waiting and calling and doing things which when you're physically and mentally exhausted is some what impossible. So proud of my self for today and yesterday though and sorting all this out. I need to do my meds and then I can finally get into bed.
I went to see my GP last night for an emergency app 're my mental health. I'm so angry that despite the input of another TOP hospital and psych I'm given a bloody wellbeing phone call tomorrow. I've gone through them twice and each time they say my level of mental health is to severe for them and hand me over. So you're just effectively wasting all of our times and I have to wait whilst getting worse to see someone who could help. My Dr showed me the letter he wrote and he stated in it severely needs psychiatrist, psychologist input 're st guys hosp. I understand there are waits for these things but I was literally discharged from my psychiatrist a couple of months back. I had a support worker through mental health services who was rude to me and they then they told me there's nothing more they can do 🤔 but id hear from them in 30 days... did I fuck. Amazing.
On the way to the Drs my car basically died like every part of it is fucked I managed to take it to the garage this morning tbh tho I don't have the money to spend on it again and the car isn't even worth that much so I'll be stuck living in the middle of a field not even being able to get to a Dr app. It's anniversary of baby on 11th and my bday on 18th this is all rather over whelming and frankly a pile of crap. I'm lucky I have such a good GP he is coming for a home visit tomo but obv there is only so much he can do.