We've got an exciting weekend ahead! The #Foundation will be at the #Greyhound game tonight supporting our boys behind section 106. Come check out our table, grab a colouring page for the contest and even a candy! Tomorrow is the #Santa Claus parade! Look out for the #AFS float!!
Did you know mental health problems affect around 1 in 10 children & young adults.. It’s time to stand up & speak up. At Usborne we have a couple of mental health books which are brilliant for children age 8+ and young adults.
This book is one from my set and it includes chapters talking about how our brains work, that it’s ok not to be ok, and not to want a relationship, body confidence, if relationships end (whether it’s a boyfriend/ girlfriend, with a friend or your parents divorce), there is no normal, how good food makes you feel good, what to do if you feel down/ vulnerable and much more. If you would like to know or see a preview of the book let I can send you more.
The pressure on our younger generation is getting worse and it can be hard to open up - we all know that feeling! These journals are a great way to get your young ens to open up ♥️
This book is available now and would be a good little stocking filler this Christmas for £6.99. The Unworry Book is available now for pre order - released to us on 21/12/18 and then released in shops in January.
Last date for ordering for Christmas delivery is 13th December for guaranteed delivery 📮🎁
If only someone had told me this whilst growing up.. it would of saved me and so many other teenagers alot of sadness, distress and confusion. Being who we are in the current world is becoming more and more difficult. With the increasing pressures surrounding us on social media, there is no wonder our children and teenager's mental wellbeing is the lowest it's ever been. Relax Kids builds self-esteem and confidence. Allowing individuals to find strengths in their uniqueness, increasing their self-belief and self-worth. "You are safe to be who you are" - you absolutely are!! 💜
Number 2 and 3 on here I would say is Lindens and I go-to for calming strategies. This is a great list. And the majority of them involve communicating with your child. Learning your child's language is probably one of the hardest things to learn as a parent. But let me tell you it is life saving.
Protect your energy. I have been thinking about boundaries and how often we say ‘yes’ when we want to say ‘no’. If you have a tendency to be a ‘people pleaser’ you might often notice yourself feeling run down and drained. Remember to put the oxygen mask on yourself first so you have the reserves to look after others. #mindfulness#selfcompassion
Meet Dr. Laurie Perlis, Psychologist at Thinking Tree.
Dr. Perlis provides psychotherapy and psycho-educational evaluations to children, adolescents and young adults. She specializes in the evaluation and treatment of childhood anxiety disorders (OCD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Specific Phobias, Social Anxiety Disorder, and Separation Anxiety Disorder) and in the evaluation and treatment of individuals (of all ages) with neurodevelopmental disorders including ADHD, Executive Functioning challenges, Specific Learning Disorders and Autism Spectrum and related conditions.
Learn more at thinkingtreepsychology.com
Even though I’d love to go into hibernation and hide under the blanket - the world is still moving as fast as ever - and I have a book launch to prepare for! ⠀
If you happen to be in Amsterdam today (Friday 16th) feel free to drop by in the Scheltema (Rokin 9), and say hello and celebrate the launch of ‘Als Verdriet op bezoek komt’ with me. We are starting at 16.00 pm. All are welcome.⠀
This was one of the images from an earlier iteration of ‘When Sadness Comes to Call’, that didn’t make it into the book eventually.
Just look at this gorgeous guy totally rocking our Kids BEAUTIFUL MIND Sweatshirt 😍🖤
Our kids clothing is designed to empower children and set them up to understand and look after their mental health as they grow👌🏻
£5 from every clothing item sold goes to our charities.
"The more risks you allow children to take, the better they learn to take care of themselves...Boys should be allowed to climb tall trees and walk along the tops of high walls and dive into the sea from high rocks... The same with girls”
These are Roald Dahl's words and I agree with him, but what he doesn’t tell you is just how hard it is as a parent to let them go out and do all of these adventurous, scary, independent things by themselves - he doesn’t mention the worry that comes with letting them take risks and the feeling of relief that washes over you when their feet are back firmly on the ground!
An activity for reflection of how we are feeling and how much these emotions take up our heart. Here are some different perspectives from the kids at school in different age groups!! It also opens up some conversations that let us talk openly about some of our issues of not sleeping and dealing with sadness/anger. Every emotion is important to feel human! What matters is how we handle it and the support around us. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜#childrensmentalhealth
Second class of Superhero Adventures with our infant team tonight! Our superhero theme was 'Incredible Me'. We ran fast like Dash and froze still into our invisible force fields like Violet. We created our own superhero names and stretched tall and wide like Elasti girl. We painted an imaginary superhero mask, gloves and cape onto our bodies, and practised our deep breathing (because even superheroes like Mr incredible can get frustrated). We finished the session with a relaxing visualisation where we received our very own invisibility cloak which could take us on any adventures we chose 💥🌈
I had a conversation a while back with a relative. Her daughter was one of the people who bullied me at school. That's right, one of my very own relatives used to bully me!
Her mum said "...but she's a good girl, married, has her own business, good with her kids... I'm sure she didn't mean it...". I'm not so convinced.
We need to hold bullies accountable. They need to be aware that their words, their actions can kill.
In this day and age with social media it is much worse than it has ever been. People say "Just block them... Ignore them... Don't reply..." it's not that simple. Why should the onus be on the victim to stop what they're doing?
My secondary school had a "zero tolerance policy" on bullying. It was bullshit! Whenever I complained to my teachers they would say "...but what did you do for them to say/do that...?" They could not comprehend that I DID NOTHING! I never started fights. I didn't argue back. I was just different. I was smart. I wanted to learn. I didn't follow "trends". Didn't have the trendiest clothes. Latest toys. Prettiest face... That made me an easy target.
No one deserves to be bullied. Ever.
#throwbackthursday anyone? 😁This is me in preschool 👧🏻 Do you remember yourself at this age? I just remember being hyper 🏃🏻♀️🤸🏻♂️😂 At this age, children are beginning to think of themselves with their own mind, body, and emotions. They are exploring their own feelings and the feelings of others around them. The little cutie buttheads are working it out 🥰
Digging up old preschool yearbook photo cred 📷 @dreamweaver83 ❤️
Well that was pretty darn tough!! My legs were screaming at me around 50 miles in and the idea of including 20 press ups and 20 sit ups every 10 Miles seemed pretty damn stupid after just 10 Miles.. 🙈😅 but after 6 hours 18 minutes and 34 seconds the challenge was completed 💪 115 spin bike miles ✅ 240 press ups ✅ 240 sit-ups ✅ Massive Thanks to the heroes that supplied me with food and drink throughout! YOUNGMINDS is a charity that supports children that suffer from mental health issues. I was shocked to find that statistically 1 in 3 children suffer from mental health issues... and In a day and age where it is now so common in adults it’s vital that we stand up and do everything we can to support our little superstars of the future. I am lucky enough to have the best dad in the universe, he brought me and my bro up on his own and introduced me to unlimited sports and fitness opportunities all throughout my childhood.. I’ve suffered from mental health issues as an adult but my saving grace and go to rock (other than my dad) is sports and fitness. It gives me mental clarity, purpose and drive and I couldn’t thank and love my Dad enough. If your little ones haven’t joined a sports club take them out this weekend and find one! Take them for a run, play football down the park! 💪😊 to those that said “you do realise you’ll lose muscle doing this” It’s not all about looking like your favourite tattooed fake celebrities from Geordie shore, being the strongest person in the gym, showing off your 1 rep max to see how many people like it on Instagram. (Which seems to be consuming the fitness industry in this day and age) A strong healthy mind and heart is the the most powerful thing you can take away from exercise not just a nice looking bicep... thanks for all the donations you heroes 🙏♥️ #fitspo#fundraising#fundraiser#youngminds#thegymgroupexeter @echoeschildcare #challenge#spinathon#cycling#gymmotivation#childdevelopment#childrensmentalhealth#mentalhealth#mentalhealthawareness#starsofthefuture#fitnessinspiration#community#worktogether#movember
Continuation of previous posts: I realised that to be able to make something consoling and comforting, I needed to understand the ‘difficult emotions’ first, and soon found myself stuck, with Sadness. And Anger and Fear. Just to give myself a little bit of a break, I drew Happiness too. It was such a relief! ⠀
This is a sketch from 2016, one those early explorations of ‘difficult emotions’. It accurately describes the feeling I have of late, of feeling enthusiastic about finally getting this book out in the world - and simultaneously being held back by fear and feeling like hiding instead. ⠀
Do you experience the same, that the more important something feels to you, the scarier it often feels to commit to it? And for those that published book already, do you remember how it felt to have your first book coming out? Did you find it scary as well, and how did you deal with that?⠀
‘When Sadness Comes to Call’ (@AndersenPress, out on January 3d). Pre-order link in bio.⠀
What isn't calming about watching a calm jar? 🤷♀️🙏💙 Imagine the glittler and sequins swirling around are like your thoughts and emotions. As the glitter slows and settles, feel your own thoughts and feelings become calm and still. When the glitter has completely settled we can see much clearer through the bottle - the same way using mindfulness stills our thoughts allowing our mind to be calmer and clearer.
Today’s post for Anti Bullying Week is quite late but I had to think long and hard about this one.
What do you do if your child is the bully?
I can imagine it is a lot of parents’ worst nightmare. Knowing that their child is contributing to the misery and potential death of another. However, it does happen and parents need to address it if it happens.
There may be a number of reasons why your child is a bully. Perhaps they want to fit in with a group of children who routinely bully others? Perhaps they are in need of attention and have failed at gaining positive attention and, as such, resort to negative behaviours? Perhaps they are being bullied themselves? Whatever the reason, it is important to talk to your child, understand their viewpoint and help them move on from this behaviour.
The Child Mind Institute has some useful information here:
The most important thing is to acknowledge the problem. If you deny that your child is a bully without first looking at the facts, the problem will only get worse. Work with the school to uncover exactly what is going on and then continue to work with the school to resolve the issues.
You must let your child know that bullying is not acceptable and can have much greater consequences than they can ever begin to understand. It won’t hurt to give them some brutal truths about the effects of bullying. Consistency is the key to eradicating unwanted behaviour. Bullying is a choice and your child needs to be aware of this.
One important thing to remember: DO NOT BULLY YOUR CHILD YOURSELF! This only reinforces the bullying behaviour. Restriction of privileges is usually a very effective way of modifying behaviour but take the lead from your child’s school.
Bullies can change with these fundamental skills:
Find out more here:
Stopping your child from bullying could save a life.
This drawing I made in 2014. If only we could organise and label all our desires, thoughts and feelings this neatly. Perhaps I’ll manage one day, one book at a time 😉⠀
When I wrote the proposal during my studies for the initial concept, to make a project that would address difficult emotions and also could comfort and console the reader, I foresaw many problems and pointed out the paradox of wanting to both completely allow for the difficult feelings to be, as to offer solutions and ‘contain’ them somehow. A paradox I sometimes still struggle with. How can you both accept and embrace who you are and try to improve yourself at the same time?⠀
Any thoughts on this?
‘When Sadness Comes to Call’ (@AndersenPress, out on January 3d). Pre-order link in bio. ⠀
Meet Dr. Lindsay Clendaniel, Director and Pediatric Psychologist at Thinking Tree.
Dr. Clendaniel specializes in the treatment of children, adolescents and young adults with anxiety and health-related adjustment issues. She has particular expertise in pain management and treatment of chronic headache and functional gastrointestinal illness. She also works with children and families on techniques for health behavior change related to encopresis and weight management.
Learn more at thinkingtreepsychology.com
Been seeing a lot of great 'staches growing in lately! The #Movember campaign isn't doesn't just support male specific cancer, the campaign is also working to lessen the #stigma surrounding men's #mentalhealth and prevent death by suicide. Check out the #MovemberCanada website to learn more and see how you can show your support! http://ow.ly/bf7e30mCgtS
Bullying is never okay and it can affect anyone.
It’s estimated that 1.5 million young people in the U.K. are bullied each year.
Being bullied can have a huge impact on a young persons life, impacting on their mental health.
Head over to the blog the read @kate1majid’s thoughts on the link between bullying and mental health. #antibullyingweek
The Unworry book is being released to Usborne Organisers mid December. £8.99
This illustrated, write-in book is an unworry toolkit, for distracting you from any anxieties, calming you down, and providing a place to sort through your worries and thoughts. It includes a variety of activities, from things to write, colour and design, to calm-down tactics and relaxation exercises.
This is aimed at children, you can work with children to go through this book or use it for yourself.
It’s not being released to high street or online until mid January.
How about starting the new year afresh, helping build up children’s confidence in themselves?
I am taking pre-orders now via PayPal. #usbornebooksathome#mentalhealth#unworrybook#debbiesreadingcorner#childrensmentalhealth#importantbooksforchildren#raisingreaders#helpingchildren#buildingchildrenup
This morning we looked at Dear Zoo in our preschool yoga class at Filey Childcare. The children were superb at the animal poses, and we used lots of breathwork too with elephant breath, hissing like snakes and camel raspberries.
We finished our session with the 3/4 year olds with Animal Friend from #yogapretzels where the children imagined themselves with an animal that provides comfort and reassurance during times of upset or frustration. This is a great way of equipping young children with mindfulness tools so that they can deal with anxieties in a calm way.
On the occasion of Children’s Day, let’s take a pledge to allow your children to follow their passion. Instead of putting them down and labelling their dreams as unachievable and not important, take a pledge to support their dreams. It's okay even if they fail now. Let them learn from their own mistakes and succeed in future. Let's take a pledge to provide a nurturing environment for them and to look after their mental health. #childrensmentalhealth#childrensday#sunshinecounselingcenter#parentsandchildren
I had a really interesting conversation a couple of days ago about this. One lady told me it would give children an over inflated ego.
My argument ... children hear or think negative things about themselves hundreds of time daily.
I’m not clever enough I got that work wrong
I’ve not got many friends
I’m not as pretty as ....
I’m not as clever as ....
And that’s not including the things we or teachers tell them - stop being silly, etc etc etc
Our job as parents is to give our children that over inflated sense of self to counteract the hundreds of negative phrases and comments they hear, and as our children get older, it’s even more important to do this (though often even harder!) If we are not there filling their bucket up with confidence, self esteem, love, encouragement, pride, who is? 😍
Avoid the driving mayhem that's happening in the Soo right now and let AFS Foundation complete your holiday shopping from the coziest part of your home! Order gift cards through AFS Foundation and Fundscrip and not only will you stay warm, dry, and safe, but you'll support youth mental health! Our next order date is Monday, November 19th at noon. We'd love to send you our order form!