I am with you,
just like you are with us.
Theres criminals that stand as shadows over your shoulder,
reminding you what society has grown to think of you.
But I do not see those shadows.
I hear your #MeToo ’s,
I see you applaud for ours.
I understand the fear to speak your truth,
because tears have grown into rarities for you.
But it is important to let them out.
I am sorry society has failed you too.
Allowing your lives to go,
I am a women,
and I am sorry for the way women are putting you in a box.
It is a box most men do not fit in,
but women are squeezing you in anyways,
forcing you to fit.
We ask our women to be believed,
but when is it the mens turn?
I am not talking about defending the rapist,
I am talking about believing the man,
who slits his wrists,
believing he should have enjoyed his torment.
The men who are scared to talk about the gun,
they have loaded in their bedside drawer.
The men who are put out on the streets,
because of their sexual orientation.
The men who are raped by other men,
and instead of being supported,
are called gay.
The men who are scared to go to the doctors,
because being examined by another man,
brings back flashbacks from as young as 6.
The men who are told their experience is LESS,
because of what is between their legs.
This morning I wrote my last column for @ferniefix. It’s hard to know when to let go of something that has for so long been a part of your life - 92 columns! That’s bananas! Holy moly was it fun! Life takes us to the strangest of places, and it’s time for the next writing venture. Life is exciting! I’m not crying, you’re crying! It’s just dusty in here.
✍🏻I used to hold back my past for fear of hurting others. In turn, it hurt me more. ✍🏻I used to hold back my emotions and how I wanted to end my life. In turn, it hurt me more. ✍🏻I used to think time instead of talking to others would heal all my trauma. In turn, it hurt me more. ❤️STAND TALL • REACH OUT • GET NAKED • YOU ARE BEYOND WORTH IT❤️
Say wha?!?! I can’t believe that in 5 Days F*CK THE SCALE will be launched on @amazonpublishing as a @amazon.kindleebook ,💫DREAM come true! The 📚hard copy will be available for purchase in January with all my amazing @kickstarter backers receiving their copy ❤️first. Stay tuned for my BOOK TOUR in your city, as I’ll be traveling 🇨🇦in the 🎉New Year. If you would like to see me in your city, ▶️COMMENT BELOW
🍁 I finally get this. Sorry for taking so long, Dr. Seuss. .
My call to shed my own masks didn’t end when I left my corporate gig to go full fledged entrepreneur. Although, I thought it would! I thought I had ‘made it’. I thought all the masks fell off and I was standing there as my authentic self. Except I wasn’t. .
What was actually happening, was I was only just beginning to withstand the winds of standing in my truth. As myself. For myself.
Take up space.
Rock the boat.
Disrupt the norm.
Shine your light.
Because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.
Being physically present for your loved ones can be draining.
Parenting is exhausting. Again, in a good way. I’m just talking really, none of this is terrible.
Parenting is a continuous act of giving yourself, giving your love, without the expectation of receiving it in return.
You should hope to inspire love. You should model characteristics your child will (ideally) reflect.
But you can’t give love with the expectation to receive.
This is why those little moments, those hugs, the acts of genuine love are far superior than simply saying the words I love you.
But i love those too.
Read the full blog post, link in my bio.
Moments in time can never be reversed or erased.
If there’s anything I’ve learned over the years, it’s that the energy you put out into the world always has a way of reverting back to you in some way, shape, or form. The impact isn’t always immediate—but when it hits, it hits hard. When I think about this for a second, I wonder how many of you actually believe it. Some may call it karma, but I like to think of it as the law of attraction.
When a word is spoken or an action is taken towards you that affects your moral compass, you naturally feel hurt. You feel angry, upset, disappointed, and confused. You have a difficult time comprehending how a person can be so cruel. When you find yourself in a situation similar to the one I’ve just described, it’s easy to fall into the trap of questioning yourself and wondering if it’s worth holding onto the person you are. You become more prone to change—and not for the right reasons. The world gives you a taste of its coldness and you retaliate by allowing your circumstances to make you turn just as cold. You become driven by revenge sugar-coated in justice. As a result, you feed into the problem, rather than use your purity to melt the stoniest of hearts.
No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. The important thing is that we are actually learning lessons from our errors.
The next time something bad happens to you, move your focus away from the issue itself and more towards bettering yourself. Because when you fight fire with fire, you always risk being burned. Spread nothing but love wherever you go. Make that your responsibility. The rest is not yours to control.
📸: Heather White-Ernteman
People act superior to you.
But just because someone’s experiences, joys, and frustrations are different then yours, does not mean yours are any less.
Everybody has valid thoughts, feelings, lives.
Those who act like yours are inferior; simply do not understand what it means to be you. It is independently your job, to live for you, and nobody else. And to never question, your authenticity.
At the end of the day,
We all entered the world the same way.
I was 3 hours under my average screen time today.
@apple I feel attacked by this whole screen time monitoring system... I think it’s unfair that it counts text messaging as social media time.
Texting my friends and family is my therapy. How about we have some self-care monitoring, huh @apple??! After working at the library for a few hours I took the dog to the dog park. I’ve been worried about bringing him to a big, open space but he did great!
Now it’s time to flex my scroll finger and catch up on the ‘gram.👍🏾
We sat in my apartment, it’s walls covered in textiles and art and keepsakes from my world travels. We sat like the grown-up high school kids that we are, still insulting each other in jest. It was then, just after I recounted the highlights of my recent failed romance in Ghana, that he paid me my favorite compliment to date. “Yamuna, you just have this unending faith in love.” Bam! There it was. So obvious and yet I hadn’t quite seen in that way before.
Though truth be told, I have never stopped letting love be what I live for. It is the force that inspired my elementary school self to put chocolates in boys lockers; my obsessive teenage self to contemplate suicide to join the already dead Kurt Cobain, and the hopeless romantic adult self that I am to fall in love everywhere I go.
I have always been a girl who walks the fine edge of rapture and heartache.
I used to make myself wrong for it as if the pursuit of love made me weak or foolish or even less than. But at thirty-six, with my endless devotion to living life with an open heart, I’m the one that's got it all figured out.
No matter what situation I come to face, may I always walk with faith in love.
Photo by @ger13an | Indian Himalayas | 2009
“Sometimes it’s not enough to believe in yourself.
Ideally, it would be enough but, for me, it’s not. Having support is instrumental.
I’m lucky to not only meet someone who embodies the phrase Community over Competition, but to also have a spouse who is always in my corner.”
Head on over to the blog and read what I wrote because it’s the nice thing to do.😂 #linkinbio
Nile Seguin @nileseguin is a stand up comedian, actor and writer who has been to the Just For Laughs festival, San Francisco Sketchfest and the Halifax Comedy Festival. "Mind-blowingly funny...no stone left unturned. Put this guy on TV!" - Montreal Mirror.
See Nile perform THIS Saturday at @peacockpub #Toronto where he’ll share is first Tinder Tale. Ticket link in bio
In the spring Ben and I went to #parliamenthill in #Ottawa for a tour. I was researching for my book. I was particularly interested in what scriptures were on the wall in the memorial chamber.
If I ascend up into heaven thou art there: if I lay down in hell, behold, thou art there! If I take the wings of the morning and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, even there shall thy hand lead me and thy right hand shall hold me up.
Also mounted is the poem #inflaundersfield By #johnmcrae . In a time of such enormous loss they also chose to post from Psalm 139. A reminder that no matter what God is always with us, always has His hand on us. They took comfort in this very thing. No matter how good or bad life is, God is always with us. •
👉🏻This is Sam. 🤦🏻♀️Sam was working 80+ hours a week. 🤦🏻♀️Sam didn’t listen to her body. 🤦🏻♀️Sam thought she was immune to mental illness because she had recovered. 🤦🏻♀️Sam is now fighting the fight. 👉🏻Don’t be like Sam.
We had a very early morning at the eye doctor. Despite the look on his face, he did great!
I’ve been taking this kid to his ophthalmology appointments for #ptosis at the Stollery since he was a little baby. The staff are AMAZING. Also, I always get lost. Every. Single. Time.
In the beginning, there were a lot of tears at these appointments (from both of us). Now we have bribery and I’m forever grateful for Fruit by the Foot.😂 We’re coming up on five years and need to start making decisions regarding surgery to lift his eyelid.😩 Any of y’all have experience with #ptosis#ptosiscorrection#ptosissurgery ?
Any opinions? Lemme know!👇🏾
Getting judged—it happens to each and every one of us. If there’s one thing you should always remember, it’s to never allow the opinions of others to become a reality in your own mind. You know yourself more than others know you. And as long as you have love inside for the person you’ve become, their thoughts and words carry absolutely no meaning. 🍂