A three-year-old called me fat today. In the past I would’ve let it bother me but today I just wanted to sit that little girl down and tell her “fat” isn’t a bad thing. I wanted to tell her bodies come in different shapes and sizes and colors and they are ALL beautiful and worthy of love, inclusion and respect. I wanted to tell her someday someone might call her fat but her worth is based on so much more than her jean size or weight. Our children are learning our biases and stigmas we’ve created and we probably don’t even realize it. Be careful what you say in front of 3-year-olds because they take everything to heart. Don’t teach them to hate and single out people that are different from them. Teach them to celebrate our differences because that’s what makes this world beautiful. #teachthemlove#kidsaresponges
Let’s get real;
My life is the best that it’s ever been. I have the sweetest friends, I’m working out consistently, I’m the most present I’ve been with friends and family in months, I’m laughing, full of joy and I have even been venturing into the whole “dating thing”. (Which for years I’ve strayed far away from bc I wanted to work on myself first)
My anxiety is actually the most insane it’s been in months, I’m always tired, I’m always either on the verge of a panic attack or having one, I keep bursting into tears over the most insignificant arguments or things going wrong.
I know this season is tough for me, it’s dark, cold and I have no reason to even leave my house if I don’t choose too which ends up meaning that I spend weeks in my house without ever having other human contact. I can’t even swim bc the pool is closed for the holiday. So I have too much time to just sit and think.
I know this will pass, I know that I’m constantly changing and evolving and this might not be my situation for long. But it freaking sucks to feel like life is great, but you’re stuck in this weird funk.
However I will fight back everytime, I’ll dive deeper into my journaling, my self care and my personal development. I will be a stronger person because of it, but in the meantime I am going to just drink all the hot chocolate, watch all the Christmas movies and buy ALL the old navy Christmas thermals bc THAT is what’s giving me life🎄
on dirait qu’installer le sapin donne automatiquement le droit aux gens de célébrer leur culpabilité de trop manger, de fêter tout haut leur prochain régime, de danser en jugeant le corps des tous.te.s ceux.celles que tu n’as pas vu.e.s depuis un an.
le temps des fêtes est une période de réjouissances, parce qu’on est si près de l’année suivante qu’on peut affirmer de façon crédible qu’on va s’y mettre en janvier.
on s’entend, tout ça se passe à l’année longue. reste que cette période de l’année est plus sensible.
comme j’en peux pu de ça (entre autres choses), je me lance dans 12 jours de réponses, de réflexions, de regards sur ce que vous entendrez, pris.e.s entre la dinde et les
"I was inspired to speak up about women's bodies and female empowerment because I was so sick of struggling with these issues by myself. I was fed up with seeing the same body type the same representation of women and their bodies on social media.
I wanted to create a community where people could feel safe and don't feel like they have to attain to a certain beauty ideal. I want a safe space where we can focus on being REAL - and talking about REAL empowerment!
I want to focus on important issues - ones that make us more aware of ourselves and the world around us and help us make this world a better place. For far too long, we’ve spent too much of our time and energy on trying to be someone who we aren't and comparing ourselves to others. We aren’t meant to restrict ourselves - we’re meant to feel free and autonomous.”💡🧠
Chantal Lacoste (@minilacoste), the founder of Tillie + True (@tillieandtrue) started her self-love and body image coaching company after battling with eating disorders and mental illness for over 9 years. She aims to change the way women see and believe about themselves, giving them the tools to thrive and to challenge diet culture.✨
And yep! Both of these beautiful images from photo 6 are of Chantal. Check out her page to read about her journey between 2014 and 2018💥
Head over to our website and read Chantal’s full story! 💕
Just uploaded a style swap try on haul video with the beautiful @scarrednotscared on my YouTube channel (link in bio)
We thought it would be fun to see us in something completely different from our normal styles, we had so much fun filming it and I do hope you enjoy watching it. #womensupportingwomen
Outfits from @simplybeuk | Photo taken by @morepsalms
“What should my vagina smell like?”
Every vulva has its own scent. Bacteria, your hormonal cycle and even the food you eat have an influence on the smell of your vulva and vagina. Due to the slight acidic pH of around 4.5 your vulva may smell a bit sour (sometimes this smell is being compared to yoghurt). A slightly musty smell is also very common, as your vulva may get a bit sweaty due to its warm surroundings. Around your period your vulva may smell a bit metallic. Also sexual activity changes the smell of your vulva/vagina, due to the vaginal lubrication and (possibly) sweat. If you have sex with a person who ejaculates inside you, their semen may also change the smell of your vagina. These sex-related odors are temporary and should change back within a few days. And all these smells are perfectly normal and nothing to worry about. Not all odors are healthy; keep an eye on sudden changes in smell or texture and colour of your discharge / cervical fluid. If your vagina smells strongly like fish, or if you notice a different smell combined with itching, burning or irritation, it may be a sign of bacterial vaginosis or (if you’re sexually active) it could be a sign of an STD. In this case it’s best to consult a medical health provider 🙌🏽
“But shouldn’t I wash inside my vagina to keep it clean?”
Nope. There are many different products available for cleaning your vagina, but these are not necessary. In contrary: your vagina doesn’t need cleaning inside. Your vagina has the magical ability to clean itself, and doesn’t need extra products to make it cleaner. The vagina has a wonderfully balanced system, and using cleaning products inside your vagina or using a vaginal douche will remove the healthy bacteria your body needs to naturally clean your vagina. You may also disturb the pH balance of your vagina by cleaning it, and this may cause irritation, yeast infections and even bad smells. So keep in mind: your vagina cleans itself and doesn’t even need extra products to make it cleaner. So yay for vaginas! ✨
Body image has very little to do with the body at all. Our PERCEPTION of ourselves is what determines our body image. How we FEEL about the body we inhabit impacts our confidence and self-esteem. °
I've been through major weight gains AND losses and one thing I've learned is:
THE BODY IS ALWAYS CHANGING.
From the time we were born, until right this moment, we've never been in the same body. However, many of us are constantly at war with our bodies trying to control them and change them. We allow external sources, like media and other people, to dictate how we feel about ourselves. It causes us to be obsessed with numbers:
Body freedom is knowing that you can nourish your body and take care of yourself without trying to control your body.
You CAN prioritize your wellness at any size or stage of life. Wellness does not have to be defined by the number on your scale. It is can simply be about the quality of your life. °
You can have a healthy, loving relationship with your body at any size, shape, or body type. °
Want support to design a lifestyle of body peace and holistic wellness in the body you have now? We'll be EXPLORING this starting 1/11/2019. Registration opens soon!
Who made #vandernag ?
Meet the people who make your clothes!
Them and I 💋
How do we work together?
The Fabric sourcing, the design, the pattern making and fittings of our prototypes are all handled in the studio.
Once the collection is ready I pack everything and pay a visit to the factory to deliver 🚛 them all the fabrics, patterns, and technical sheets.
The ladies then are in charge of grading the patterns and sewing the final garments!
The small factory is just 2,3 hours from Berlin and makes it easy to reach anytime a problem occurs in the production!
This is what a Fair-Trade factory looks like☝🏻
Bloody loved this one!👙
This gorgeous swimsuit just made me feel amazing💗
I’m on a mission to not just feel good within myself but to also help others on their journey to feeling good. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
To not be so hard on themselves and know the days when we just feel ‘off’ are ok too. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I feel so lucky every single day I get to share a little bit of my life with you all.
I share as much as I can because I want to show all sides of my journey; some days are hard, but I would rather show up as who I am and be the reminder that someone may need that it’s okay to just BE YOU💫✨🌟
Today a photo from my trip to Cairo. Before I decided to spend my birthday there I knew it was going to be different for me the plan was to find something about myself. I did it I found it. This year was maybe one of the most complicated years in my life because my soul was screaming out I didn't wanted to be leaving with just the feeling of I am happy and I am grateful but I also want to be in peace with many things. I didn't have contact with one of the most important persons in my life I pretend it was OK not to see him, talk to him... But yesterday I received the gift from my trip. I realized I needed to talk to him again and tell him what I feel. Yes I called my father yesterday and it was a release all the last in my heart got lighter. The gift is forgiveness. Forgive yourself. Forgive people who has hurted you. The key to Self-love the key to be happy.
Good morning friends.
Back to Bellevue. Realized I had an amazing time in Canada, having been connected with people I love and embraced by them. I didn’t even think about what I normally struggle with and I didn’t feel the feeling I always feel here, the feeling of “emptiness,” not physically but mentally. During the past 5 days, I was ME. I didn’t have to pretend to be someone else in order to not being disliked, not to make people feeling uncomfortable by being with me, and please people which means I don’t have to be hurt even though I sacrifice my VERY true self, covering my own uniqueness that I have been told by my family I need to hide. Even though it was very short trip, I felt my life was content.
Today, I caught myself trying to hold on to the feeling I got in Canada and not wanting to face the reality here where I live in now. Negative feelings quickly filled me up again, and I felt down. I went to an appointment with my counselor, it made me feel better but again the negative feelings came back to me very quick... Then, I unfortunately had to go through tough time in the afternoon when I was talking, over the phone, with the person who I am biologically close with and who I thought cared about me at least more than my family does. I was basically hurt by what the person told me. I believed I had been heard by that person until then. I literally had nobody else in my family who listened to me, so I was very thankful to that person. “I’m busy at living my life, so I don’t remember anything you said unless it’s something surprising to me.” I wish I wouldn’t have heard the words. I was hurt, devastated, and I felt I was almost hopeless. I tried to feel better and distracted myself doing some stuff. Feeling sad/down was what I had been told as “not okay” for so long until I reached out to this community. I know now, it’s okay not to be okay and every single feelings are valid. But I clearly need more work to really believe the idea and be able to give a credit to allow myself to feel negative without any judgement. My dietitian told me it’s okay to feel sad/empty and what is important is acknowledging the feelings and thinking about what the function of the feelings...👇🏻
Part of growing as a person is pushing yourself beyond your boundaries and discovering new depths to you that you simply hadn't seen before. For some people this boundary pushing may come in the form of public speaking, and finding the courage to be vulnerable in a crowd. For someone else this may be asking someone on a date, and risk exposing their truth. Or speaking to a stranger at a party, joining a new group, starting a new business, asking someone for help or expressing your own opinions.
I've always found travel to be one of the most rewarding ways to expand as a human. Deep diving into a culture that goes far beyond what's familiar to you. Pushing yourself to see the world from a new angle and from someone else's perspective. Feeling uncomfortable stumbling your way through a foreign city and not knowing how to ask for directions.
Whatever it is for you, pushing yourself beyond your limits and opening your mind to learning something new about the world and about yourself is a treasure chest waiting to be discovered. •
Babies? Yes please. I’ll take one of each ✨
Mama + baby portraits are always in style with me.
While, yes, I do them every Nurturing Mama coffee and connection morning at @thewellcollab, I’m happy to capture your love any ole day. We needn’t wait, let’s do it now!
Inquire via my website, link in bio.
Well peeps we survived hump day so here’s a woohoo for getting one step closer to the weekend! 🙌🏻💜💛
So what did I not do last night? Go to bed early like I should have. 🙃🤷🏼♀️
I swear sometimes I have so much stuff racing through my brain that I can’t help myself. Lately the to do list seems never ending. Does anyone else get that way? What do you do to cope with it? I am taking suggestions.
Like take this amazing photos of this look featuring 2 more pieces from the @girlwithcurves x @lanebryant collection. I totally had every intention of writing a blog post on this and well that clearly didn’t happen. And I hate that my new photographer Kate put the effort in and no one has seen them. So if you would please take a moment a scroll left to appreciate her beautiful work 👈🏻👈🏻
Tanesha I loved the print on this tunic the moment I saw it in the pop up shop and this cape has been a regular feature in my wardrobe this fall. I can’t wait to see what you design next 😘
📸s by @katemcgphotography
😘 <<< why is this emoji literally me HAHAH // Listen, sometimes the people with the greatest potential often take the longest to find their path🖤 They spend so much time focusing on their fear rather than actually acting on it. Spending so much time being comfortable instead of remaining uncomfortable for change. They’re a double edged sword. So smart, but so skeptical. So determined, but so cautious. So ready for more, but not ready for change • Growing is all about taking leaps into the unknown. Do not judge yourself for wanting more, for knowing you deserve more out of life. Our time is so limited here on Earth & you are worthy of every dream + every success you’ve always wanted ✨ Pursue those — your heart will not lead you to anything you don’t deserve.
I was afraid- but I succeeded. I was scared- but I went for it. I was worried about opinions of others- but they still talk and I continue to go up. JUST do it. Do it for yourself. For ONCE!
@fatgirlflow says: "This. This is my favorite picture ever taken of me. Not because I look damn good in this bra and hat combo... but because I am at peace. Nobody in the room hesitated or looked away when my belly was out. @heyboudie didn’t try to crop out my lower half as she photographed me. I felt beautiful. J saw me from across the room and said “your belly looks so cute”. My body is just my body. I don’t apologize for it or make excuses for it anymore. It is me and I won’t leave it behind ever again. It’s not a project, or a work in progress. It’s a perfect expression of who I am in this moment. This body and me, we’re together forever and we’re finally at peace. And that makes me so so happy." #feelgoodfeed
Can clothing contribute to happiness. According to founder of @thepsychologyoffashion. clothing-happiness comes when you’re dressed in alignment with your real current self. Unhappiness comes from dressing for others in a way that is at odds with your true expression.