@garpandfuss, your menu is fabulous! #bitchdontkillmyvibe , Mac and cheese #magic , delicious ricotta, fabulous chicken (wings, sandwich, and with an egg), wonderful burger, ravioli that radiated fall and winter flavors, charcuterie board of champions, and there were a bunch of apps we ate before they could be ravaged by the paparazzi. All in all, everyone should go here. Now. 😋
I think everyone has heard that dating in 2018 is “hard”. It is hard. I think a lot of people think it’s disturbing and just an overall joke. But this is the reality of some people’s lives. And it shouldn’t be a joke.
You know what really pisses a single person off? Hearing things like, “quit focusing so much on trying to find someone.” Or “oh there’s plenty of fish in the sea, you’ll find someone soon.” I know I don’t NEED someone. Hello? Have you looked at me? I’m independent. I go off and do things by myself literally ALL OF THE TIME. I just moved to a huge city where I know practically no one at all. I don’t NEED anyone. But I do I want someone? of course I do.
As humans, we all desire affection, admiration, intimacy, human interaction, close bonding, etc. THIS IS A NORMAL FEELING- so please, for the love of god- do not tell me to focus on myself.
That’s literally what I do, day in and day out. That’s all I have and I work diligently to be the best version of myself that I can be. Wanting a companion (or in my case, really just someone to be kind for once) is not a crime.
I watch others enjoy their time bonding with their significant other. They’re out doing things together. They have extended friend groups because of their relationship. They are engaged or married or having kids. Meanwhile, I can’t even get a guy to talk to me for more than a week and actually being nice in that week timespan? woof that’s a really lucky week if so.
Know that coffee your s/o brought you last week? That small gift that was left on the counter for you for no reason at all? When your bf helped you carry all of your groceries in and listened to you bitch about Becky from accounting? Rubbed your back while you cried about a lost loved one.. You could have none of that. All of these tiny things that you take for granted, someone else doesn’t even know what that feels like.
I have been single for 4 years and before that short and AWFUL relationship, it had been YEARS before that, with someone who verbally and physically assaulted me. The only person who didn’t treat me like shit was a high school love that didn’t last. (Continues in comments).