Turning up with the turndown service.
Fresh cut Lavender on my main squeeze pillow. Awwww, look at me.... :D
Really been spoiling myself this month with little things that explode love in my heart.
Loving yourself can translate into loving others... I said to myself.
You're okay. You're better than okay, you're amazing. I have no idea how we made it this far, it's a puzzle. Also I appreciate the way you support my growth and communicate your feelings to me. I love you. (Fist bump, Hug)
Being a parent is hard work at times. It's not just the mental strains through the day of hormonal pre-teens, over-excitable school-ages, tantruming toddlers and poorly babies. When you tag 'no sleep' into that equation, there are days when it can push you right to the edge.
Self care is so important when you have children. You must be able to find a way to function through this. It won't last forever (So I'm told!) though trust me, I know it feels like it!!!! I'm living it!! It's hard, it's gruelling, for me there are days I'm so tired I just want to cry, but you do manage it.
If you can, go to bed early, even if it's just 1 night a week. I will sometimes go to bed when the children go to bed at 7.30 just so I can try and fit an extra hour or two in.
If someone offers to have the children SAY YES!! Don't feel guilty! Yes, they are your children, yes, they are your responsibility, but does that mean you have to sacrifice your mental health if someone is offering you help? Certainly not! Take the offer, get in bed and enjoy that uninterrupted sleep!! But most importantly, you are not alone. I know it seems it at 2, 3, 4, 5 and 6am. I know, I feel it too sometimes. But you're one of many of us getting out of bed in the night to check that your most precious things are safe. Take comfort from that, find some online mum's groups so you can talk to people in the middle of the night if that is what you need to get you through these hard times. Do what you need to, but just make sure to remember to take care of you. X