There are times in life where we don’t understand how we ended up where we are on our journey, and at that time the things we had hoped for seem non-existent or out of reach.
I haven’t met a person yet, who was excited about or embraced a detour. Detours are nothing short of an inconvenience, they are longer than we would like, out of the way, and sometimes frustrating and discouraging. But detours are also very necessary. When you think about it, a detour is nothing more than an alternate, very inconvenient, route to get you to your ultimate destination.
Abraham, Joseph, Moses, Paul and even the nation of Israel had to take detours. Detours that were used to move them out of one situation and into another for a much greater purpose.
I can do nothing but be thankful for the detours I've encountered and the growth and encouragement that came from them. To know that what looks like a problem today, can actually be used by God to bring about His perfect plan tomorrow.
Sometimes things in life break our spirits and steal our joys, and in those moments it is so easy for us to forget that God has a hand in every part of our lives. “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28
Social trends, memes, and every day posts from every day people (the ignorant and the intellectual) will have y’all thinking there’s no good left in this world, so why don’t we feed our every lust and desire and who cares who we step on along the way.
Don’t get caught up in the hype, because there’s a lot of it out there. That’s just a lazy excuse for people who don’t want to do the work. People who don’t want to do the work, never see the fruits of the labor. So what do they know anyway?
Love is labor. It is what separates the strong from the weak. Regardless of what it may LOOK like, there is an abundance of good people out in the world who are humble, who are giving, who are selfless, who have SELF-CONTROL, who are SELF-DISCIPLINED, who care about the things that matter most. There are people who will say NO to themselves for the happiness of someone else.
For every negative post you see about relationships and marriages and monogamy, there is a happy, thriving, healthy, prospering relationship. You can believe the hype if you want, but I know better.
Men are fascinating…they really are.
Simple, in fact.
It’s too bad that some of us women cling so tightly to our stubborn pride and frustrations and hurts from the past, that we miss a few granted opportunities to take the time to try to understand and find out for ourselves and appreciate, just how fascinating God made them.
It often goes unnoticed AND without acknowledgment, the things men do every day (and at their leisure), for our favor and to make our lives easier.
The small, taken for granted, things.
They too, deserve an attitude of humility and gratitude.
We need to get back to practicing how to do love, and do it well.
A woman should be pouring as much positivity into HIM, as she would have him pour into HER.
For all they do, for all the temptations they have to fight, for all the ways they no say to themselves to say yes to her, for all the pressures a man faces daily to provide, to support, to maintain, to make better…
we need to better understand value and balance and respond with less pride and more positive affirmation, prayers and encouragement.
Love is kind. Be kind.
Make your ACTS a blessing.
Build up. Speak life. Encourage. Pray for him.
It’s sad that we more readily understand the value that things hold for us AFTER they’ve been removed from our lives. We too often miss our blessings because we are constantly preoccupying ourselves with things we don’t have and experiences we are missing out on, instead of being appreciative and grateful for everything we have and everything we are going to receive.
We don’t always appreciate how blessed we are or how good we have it. It’s more common than not, to forget the importance and value of the very things that deserve our thought and gratitude…UNTIL they are taken from us. We live in a culture of insatiable appetites for the shallow and material things of the world and it’s becoming harder to find those that aren’t looking for their next “happiness high” instead of finding the simplicity of contentment in the here and now to be enough (not to be confused with complacency). We need to renew our awareness of the things in life we have become so accustomed to, and stop wasting time thinking about the things we don’t have. More often than not, we will find that the things that truly provide happiness, are usually right in front of us we need to continuously remind ourselves of where we’d be without them.
There’s not a day that goes by (even when we may be at odds), that I’m not challenged by and ask myself what I can do to make their day better and how I can make it happen? What can I do today, to add to their life? What can I do to be a better person, a better friend, a better me in their life? What I can do to make their life easier, if just a little? How can I make them smile? What I can do better today to improve our communication or strengthen our foundation? What are they struggling with, and what can I pray for today? WHAT CAN I GIVE OF MYSELF?
Relationships aren’t about not being lonely. They’re not for the selfish and they’re definitely not about finding someone who just enjoys being with and giving to you. Relationships are an exchange, an interdependence. They are the giving up of things and gaining of things. They’re about the balance and/or transfer of strengths and weaknesses and the dependability of each other to hold the other up, when they cannot hold themselves up on their own at any given and sometimes inconvenient time. Relationships are full of inconveniences, tests and trials. They are indeed work and are nothing short of daily compromises and sacrifices.
REAL love doesn’t ask, “What’s in it for me?”
LOVE, (the REAL kind) is not self-seeking. (See 1 Corinthians 13)