Tonight we celebrate our annual school Christmas concert. Our music teacher does such an amazing job with these kids, and my oldest gets to sing in a small ensemble. It's wonderful to watch talents begin to emerge.
Today, we spent the morning in the dark due to a power outage. This got us thinking... is your family ready for a power outage? Could you survive the day in the dark? With no heat? No stove or microwave? No Wi-Fi?
❄Without a doubt, the best thing that has happened in my life was becoming this little monster's mama❄ .
A child opens your eyes to the value and gift of life. I always wanted to be a mom and ive always had a way with kids, so i thought i knew it all. But damn, being a mom is HARD. Yes, it is also fun, adventurous, mysterious, amazing and all that good...but being a mom is challenging. It causes an insane amount of anxiety, pressure, fear, hope, love and even hurt. You never know if what you're doing is right or enough until you have moments of validation from those little critters you adore so much. Tonight, Kennidy held my face and said "thank you for playing cars with me, i love you" and it was that moment i had reassurance im doing ok.
Holidays bring so much pressure for parents to give the perfect gift. It’s important to consider if your child is responsible enough and developmentally ready. If you’re ready to take the plunge for a gaming device or cell phone remember to set up the parental controls and outline the rules and consequences with your child (and update your family media plan). This will reduce the arguments later if your children know where and when they are allowed to use the device and the consequence if they break the rules.
Looking through photos tonight I was thinking about what I learned/realized on this trip 👇😂🤔 1. Regardless of our nationality or language us mom's all have the "look" that tells our kids they better act right asap 😂💁♀️
2. DJ and I are extremely minimal packers. You will not find us with 4 backpacks, 2 rolling suitcases and a huge bag for a purse 😳🎒
3. Our pink drink helped us be some of the only people not falling asleep on the bus ride back from the parks after going nonstop for 10+ hours and walking about 20,000 steps a day 🙌🚶♀️
4. You'll spend ridiculous amounts of money on minnie ears, light up toys, bubble wands, hair braids, pens, pins and everything else only for your kids to not want them 30 minutes later #disneytakeourmoney
5. We missed 2 nights in a row of our supplements and were amazed at how awful we felt. 😵
Bottom line, if you're taking a magnesium supplement, probiotic and/or omega and are not sleeping all night, still have digestive issues or bloating, are not regular (yes I went there lol) or feel sluggish then they are NOT working. #truth
6. I'm so grateful that DJ and I are able to travel ✈ with our girls at such a young age.
7. I'll never go to Disney again without ponchos for the out of nowhere torrential downpour ⛈
8. Valentina will never smile in a picture if asked 🤣
9. Things are not always going to go according to your plans. You have to adjust, be flexible and make the best of your situation #thereisalwaysasilverlining
I'm always flummoxed by the prospect of creating a charcuterie board. My friend's centerpiece at last night's gift exchange satisfied us while we "stole" gifts and argued over the rules. Looking closely, it's a formula. Posting this here so I can reproduce it for an upcoming party. Not shown: gourmet wasabi dark chocolate truffles. #ohmy#charcuterieboard#goodfriends#raisingkids#andraisingCain
Terrible Two? Temos por aqui! Também conhecida por adolescência dos bebês, nessa fase as crianças começam a se descobrir como indivíduos com desejos e vontades próprias e a obediência que antes reinava gloriosamente por aqui, agora sumiu e nem deu satisfação 😂 #ToRindoMasQueroChorar 😂
Dizer “não” ou dizer “vai em frente” dá na mesma 😅 Cada troca de fralda mais parece a Terceira Guerra Mundial 🧨 É briga pra entrar no banho, briga pra sair do banho, briga porque tá brigando .... sim, porque nem ele sabe o motivo da briga muitas vezes 🤦🏻♀️ Se jogar no chão como ato de protesto então, virou rotina por aqui 😒
E nós seguimos com muito amor e uma dose extra galáctica de paciência, tentando não surtar mas nem sempre conseguindo 😅 Nessas horas, quando a paciência esgota, prefiro sair de perto pra não agir errado e muito menos dizer coisas das quais vou me arrepender depois. E lembrar que essa fase passa, como todas as outras .... então eu tento ao máximo investir e preservar o nosso relacionamento, que durará para sempre ❤️ #MasNãoÉMoleNão#TemDiasQueSóPorDeus 😂
Já aviso que vai ter chuva de fotos desse ensaio ❤️
Eles AINDA não estão de férias, mas hoje não foram à escola. 😶
E o primeiro dia do mais próximo de "férias" que tivemos foi um caos. 😭
Sim, porque o bicho pegou o dia inteiro.
Miguel acordou bem e continuou zen até João descer o último degrau da escada. Pronto. Miguel incorporou o "irmão-implicante-chato-irritante" o DIA INTEIRO. 😭
Por mais que eu consiga ignorar grande parte das discussões entre eles e deixe que eles se resolvam, há momentos em que essa missão é impossível.
A gente senta, conversa, explica. 20 segundos depois o vuco vuco recomeça.
Senta de novo, conversa mais rispidamente.
Dou 5 passos e começam as discussões.
"Senhor, me ajuda a ter a paciência necessária."🙏
E assim foi até o fim do dia.
Não, não consegui manter a calma por 10 horas seguidas sozinha com eles acordados, agitados.
Há momentos em que a vontade é abrir a porta, sair sem rumo e sem olhar para trás.😶😭
Mas aí me dou conta que sem eles não sou capaz de passar do portão. 💕
Meu Deus, ninguém me disse que a maternidade era oscilar entre a insanidade e o amor incondicional TODOS OS DIAS. 😂💕
I overheard someone at the airport on our way here saying to another mom in a not so nice tone, “you’re brave taking kids on your vacation, I guess it won’t be much of a vacation for you”. Yes traveling with kids is a challenge but the reward of being with them when they experience new things is amazing. My child is wild, he’s the life of a party kid and brings so much joy to our travels. So parents take the road trips, go on the trip, teach them about the world and how to love it well!! 💖 #ohmydash#morestampsonthepassport
Every morning while I’m working out I hear little feet running through the house.
Every morning he runs in our room and says, “daddy where’s mommy”
Every morning, Matt directs him down stairs.
Every morning I hear him continue to search and every morning I say, “Bray I’m down here.”
Every morning, he comes running down with his milk, my water, and giraffe.
But, today was different.
Today none of that happened.
Today he got up a little later.
A little older than he was yesterday.
Today he took the time to pick out his own clothes, shirt, pants, socks “even underwear mommy!”.
Today was a turning point in his life.
You never know when is the LAST time you’ll do something for your baby.
I know yesterday wasn’t the last time I’ll ever have to get his clothes for him, but today, without him knowing, I realized was the first day that he was a little more self sufficient.
Hug your babies, kiss your babies, read to them, enjoy changing their diapers.
It’s exhausting yes.
Very freaking exhausting.
But you never know when it’ll be the last time you’ll hold them, change them, and kiss them good night.
Love every single moment.
I'm sneaking one of my daughter's Christmas presents here...shhhh...no sharing the secret!
As a #type1diabetic I love that American Girl makes a diabetic supply kit for dolls. (*Comes with medical bag, pump, infusion set, insulin pen, glucose tablets, med ID bracelet, Lancet device and glucose meter) I was even more excited that my daughter asked for the kit (even tho she doesn't have diabetes) because it opens an opportunity for two things:
1) Even though she has grown up watching me treat my diabetes, this gives her an interactive way to find out more and not feel scared or overwhelmed by what she doesn't know.
2) This is creating compassion in her for t1d friends and strangers alike that she may encounter. Now she gets to explore hands on what day to day with diabetes is like.
I shared my own version of all the stuff in her kit for comparison...and yes...I'm going to pack all her doll kit back up and let her play with it. (I promise. Just 5 more minutes...) We all have hard stories that we want to shelter our kids from. But sometimes God uses our journey to train them in compassion and shape their own stories. What have you walked through with your kids that has had unexpected positives in their lives? OR how do you cultivate compassion in your kids through your daily activities and habits?
Carl Jung. Children begin to learn before they’re able to process the world linguistically - that means that what we DO has more impact than what we say. Even when we develop language, our unconscious still pays a lot of attention to others’ actions, especially when they don’t align with their words
This is why I like to go back in time with my clients and understand how they felt about their early relationships. Often this gets confused with ‘blaming the parents’ but if that was the purpose we’d make no progress! Assigning blame doesn’t achieve much, but understanding the WHY helps us move forward. Understanding the origins of the internalised vicious voice helps us distinguish it from our own internal voice. Understanding why our parents are the way they are helps us find empathy and forgiveness for any mistakes they’ve made. Understanding early friendships and sibling relationships helps us dissect what beliefs we’ve formed about ourselves
The honest truth is that EVERY parent is going to screw up their child in some way - because perfection doesn’t exist! There’s always something we do as parents that leads to a problem... I try very hard to choose which negative I can live with, rather than trying to find perfection and being unaware of the potential negatives. I also always try and say sorry when I’m not my best self... and explain my emotions so I’m modelling self acceptance and emotional reflection
Kids (and the adults they grow up to be) are a reflection of the actions they see in the world. You don’t have to be perfect to be a good parent, and you don’t have to have perfect parents to be a good person. Self acceptance and apologies when you falter are important. Reflect on your early experiences with a focus on curiosity and understanding, rather than blame. Reflect on your own parenting with a focus on curiosity and understanding, rather than self criticism. Most importantly, remember that “your actions speak so loudly I can’t hear a word you’re saying” (@thinkgray says that a lot but I’m 90% sure he stole it from someone!) 💜 #thinkgray
Teaching my little guy about what tones are polite and rude have been interesting. The "okayyyy!" Vs the "ok". At first I got upset and said, "excuse me, that is not a polite way to say ok". He continued to do it a few more times until I realized that he didn't understand why it was rude. So for our usual nightime stories, I told him one about a little boy who was rude to his mommy and daddy and how it sounded...and also how others heard it. Than I told him how happy his mommy and daddy were when this little boy started to answer kindly.
He understood the difference hearing it from a non accusation point of view.
Today he answered me saying "okayyy" than without a word in between, said..."I mean, ok mommy" 😍
We do not need to hurt our kids emotionally (or physically) in order for them to understand and be guided in the right direction😍😍
My son's self esteem and self confidence wasent hurt by me telling him how rude he was and the result is what I had hoped for.
Raising a middle school boy, almost teen is so hard!
The Mommy-Son relationship is different, the divide starts to happen, but they still "need you" and you just want them to be your little boy!
So when Bryce wants to give me a hug, it makes my Mommy heart happy💙
I told him that I needed to document this!
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Do you know how often it is suggested to me to have Kai checked for ADD? Once a week. Family, friends, people at the park. I started to get worried, second guessing my knowledge of his character. Until I asked one of his teachers, to which she laughed and said “No babe, he is just a normal energetic boy!”. But I don’t get annoyed when people ask or suggest, because I’m glad that people feel comfortable to voice their perceptions to me. Because I would never had really noticed! I like getting feedback about my kids. I used to be defensive and offended and now I see it as a gesture of love and care for my humans. I am 100% okay with that - because it is true when they say it takes a village to raise kids!✨🌻 #raisingkids#openheart#openmind#love#villageofparents
To the taxi drive that will drive your kids around from one end of town to another at a minutes notice.
To the cook that helps out with a few meals prepared a week.
To the seamstress that fixes any loose threads or clothing modifications at the snap of our fingers.
To the after hours day carer
To the pet minder
To the gardener
To Nana Jane (Mum), Happy Birthday ♥️♥️♥️ and thank you 🙏🏼 Sure, you can raise kids on your own, but the village enriches their lives (and makes my life a hell of a lot easier) Mum is a big part of my village (I’m definitely the Chief 🤣)
this #repost ... it’s simply the best advice ever! ❤️✌🏻 ・・・
"I see your fear, but I also see your courage and it's bigger." Wise words from Abby Wambach on teaching your kids to take on the challenges of life. 🙌
Resilience, & how best to build it, is a topic that’s become very popular in Psychology. It’s something that we think about a lot here at The Brave Space too. But what actually IS resilience? 🤔
I recently read this definition 👆🏻& loved it because it sums up what is at the heart of the issue when it comes to resilience + kids.
Research tells us that resilience is likely a mix of factors we inherit (our genetic predisposition) as well as some we learn. This is great news as it means it’s something we can ALL work on fostering (in ourselves + our kiddos). Mindset is everything, right from the start 💫
We woke up to the first snow of the season (there wasn’t much, but still!)
So we put off school for a couple of hours and played, the kids drove the four-wheeler with Dad down the road to shovel our neighbor’s driveway, and then we came inside to warm up with pancakes and hot chocolate while we read scriptures and Christmas stories. I love mornings like this.