This week I will be starting the process of legally changing my name. When I first came out as transgender, I had a lot of negative reactions, some were supportive, but most were not. People laughing. Telling me I am not trans, I’m “Pansexual”, which I absolutely am not. People telling me about myself has always baffled me. And the ever popular: “Do I have to call you Charlie now?” That answer has been different from person to person. I never wanted to make those I love uncomfortable. More specifically, it made me uncomfortable to defend my name.
The answer has now become a definitive “Yes. Please call me by my true name. Charlie Smith”. The following is NO ONES business, but for the sake of educating people who may otherwise be confused, here we go...
I do not plan to have gender reassignment surgery or begin hormone therapy. My reasons for this are many, even though it is something I’ve considered and may reconsider later in life, but for now I am okay with my body, it’s other people who seem to have the need to tell trans people who they are and what they should be doing.
Please educate yourself, I have lost a lot of friends since coming out, because they made me feel marginalized and unheard, misunderstood. Thank you to those of you who have stood by me, asked questions and helped me to get to this point, where I am confident to take this important step in owning my true and authentic self.
and with so much love,
Charlie S. Smith