My thoughts during this moment when i took this photo is.. Mistakes are not designed to derail us but to educate us. Sometimes, it is a necessary process for us to become better, stronger or wiser. But as with all lessons, they are only valuable when we learn something from them and grow from there. So, learn as much as you can, minus the negative self-loathing emotions and thoughts. Then, use all your knowledge and move forward to becoming the person you've always aspired to be - the BETTER YOU. Oh yes, you are worth every effort.. Be you and love yourself.. #fearlessradicaloptimist#theartoffearlessliving#goodbyelonghair#changeforthebetter#singleandhappy
"The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing." I think this applies to every person - woman, man or child. We all need to be reminded to take time out to nurture oneself. We need to seek out what feeds our souls, and we deserve the right to have that space to fly or roam to find it. Because our souls need to breathe new life to old songs, and sing new songs as well.
Find what feeds you and never stop growing, evolving and expanding into all that you are born to be.
It is our birth right to discover the "ocean inside of us". With all its mysteries, in its vastness.
There are days or moments in this journey that are so hard and painful that no one will ever know, or even see. Not everyone will understand. And that is ok. Because not everyone understands in the same way.
Yes, there is real loneliness in this journey. That is part and parcel of what #life is.
Ultimately, we are all alone in our pain and suffering. No one can join us in our private "inner domain". It is our fight alone.
We either win this war, or quit on life altogether.
No, it will not get any easier.
We either get stronger and better, or die trying.
#Liberation lies in the #persistence of your hands, in the #courage of your heart and the #discipline of your mind.
2 years ago on this date, I met a shy and diverse group of young men at the Bamboo Villa in the #GKEnchantedFarm . Subsequently, they became to be known as "The Spartans". These were the original 11 boys who paved the way for many more to become the best that they are born to be. It has been an incredible journey. To say that they have changed my life is an understatement. The stories we could tell you... but then again, you may not even believe us. The real stories will remain engraved in our hearts.
Now, as each of your spread your wings and soar to the heights of your greatest self; never forget where you came from & how you started. Above all, remember why you began this Spartan journey in the first place.
Maraming salamat, my dearest Spartan Sons.
The journey continues...like the love we share. It never ends.
Sometimes I feel like this old woven basket, standing in the hallway, waiting in anticipation of what will greet me when I step out the door. Whether it will fill me up with new lessons. But first of all, I must remember to empty of the old, outdated thinking and feelings.
Un-learning and re-learning.
Can only happen when we allow it. Otherwise, we remain as we are. Either an empty basket, still waiting in the hallway for life to find us or filled with bitterness of the past.
Giving the old traditional Mango Sticky Rice a new perspective and experience. Such is life. It is so with dining and living.
What's your new perspective that changes your experience of life and people? 😊
Within you and me,
There are galaxies,
Stardust dances in our spirits,
The moon anoints our eyes,
The sun kisses our skin,
Staining its warmth onto the landscape,
That becomes our heritage.
We will find light.
For the light is in us,
Inextinguishable and divine.
No matter what colour we have been painted with,
We are a tapestry of stars.
Keep shining, darlings. ~ SMT
All flowers, no matter how beautiful, will fade in time. That fate awaits all flowers. All flowers are open to the elements of change. They bud, they bloom and fade. They do not compare or compete. They just bloom in their own magnificence, unaware of the cruelty of the elements, without judgement on her beauty.
Alas, it is not the same for us.
We humans place a lot of judgement on one another, especially on those we deem as beneath us or different from us.
Yes, I am here. And so are you.
We each gave our own unique brand of service under nature's eye. And after us, our children will be. Is there a greater contribution or a more graceful end?
Remember that the sky is blue above the clouds. Remember that you are not your struggles, or your circumstances, or even your mistakes or past trauma.
Remember that everything you seek is already within you. You are #Love , you are #Light , you are #Joy , you are #Courage , you are #Hope .
You are bigger than your body, bigger than your thoughts, your past and future.
You are your own individual.
At the same time, you are in solidarity with the greater #humanity of divine creation. You are magnificent in your individual beauty, and powerful in your vulnerability.
Always remember who you are, and where you come from. Remember how you came to be.
Life is a journey. The process of becoming takes time and the willingness to engage actively. Above all, in all honesty.
May Summer shower you with the warmth of the Sun and drape you in the delicate scent of Lavender.
May the land's beauty be bountiful, and the bounty be beautiful.
May we love nature and let nature nurture us in return.
Yes, my lovely Universe, you have every right to be this lush and stunningly sublime.
#NotetoSelf - "I shall pass this way but once; any good that I can do or any kindness I can show to any human being; let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again." ~ Etienne de Grellet
Life is finite. Everything is transient. We shall not pass this way again. Let's give it all our best and do it right. With loving kindness. Always with loving kindness.
Personally, I have lost my fair share of friends to mental health issues. Yes, these beloved friends have chosen to take their own lives. It is a very sad and lonely place to be when one is imprisoned in that tormented state of mind. Sometimes, we do not even realise who is suffering in great pain. So, please take the time to really look at our friends, families, co-workers or neighbours. Take the time to find out if they are really ok. Often than not, it is the strongest facade that hides the deepest despair.
Sometimes the process of transformation can get very unpleasant or even disruptive and painful. We do not have to like or enjoy it. And we usually don't. However, the process of becoming a better version of ourselves is never meant to be pleasant or scenic. It is meant to enable us to birth a stronger and better us.
Until we understand this and embrace it, we may fight the process and make it more unbearable for ourselves than it already is.
At the end of the day, no one is responsible for our personal emotional and mental freedom but us. So, take the time this weekend to reflect on what makes us better people and commit to that process of transformation.
May we all become the people we aspire to be, the people we are proud to be.
Have a beautiful weekend, my dearest friends.
If #fear rules over your life and all your decisions or choices are based on fear, or is motivated by fear, then you would not have even lived.
There is a difference between doing good because you genuinely care about humanity, and refraining from doing bad out of fear.
In the same vein, we give love because we understand the value of love and the joy of giving.
We do not give and expect something in return. That is not giving. That is not even #love . That becomes an exchange.
Think about it.
Real #Freedom lies in knowing the difference.
Live not out of fear.
BUT live for life and breathe with love.
Have a wonderful Wednesday, my dear friends and fans.
Your life is worth every drop of love you feed. 💖
Freedom should never be taken for granted. Freedom should also never be confused with recklessness and irresponsibility. Yes, we all have our fair share of freedom but never doubt that all choices or decisions have costs and consequences. So, use your freedom wisely. If possible, use your freedom to benefit others.
Above all, own the #freedom to be beautiful as you are. Always.
This is what the Malaya Collection is all about.
I am sharing this photo because it is symbolic of what it means to cross borders for greater good.
Jose Luis Oquinena, our Executive Director of #GawadKalinga meets with the Luis of the hopeful youth of Sabah.
#TonyMeloto , GK and #GKEnchantedFarm have been invited by Hap Seng group and PACOS to share our journey and learnings with the amazing NGOs and SEs in Sabah.
We will be exploring ways to collaborate for the greater good of both countries. This is how we celebrate our mutual #friendship , #partnership and our shared #humanity .
DO YOU JUST SEE, OR DO YOU HAVE VISION? Being ABLE to see is one thing; having foresight and vision is completely another. Let's do a little experiment: Look in the mirror - what do you SEE? Be aware of your first thoughts, and all those noises in your head. Notice what your mind is moving towards. Now take another look, but this time, have in mind a VISION of what you want to be. Go beyond, WAY beyond the surface of your skin and your hair and your physique, and see what's possible for you. Look at the things that you think are your best assets, and feel gratitude for them. Then look at those that you may not be as proud of, and still, feel gratitude for them. For every part of you that is working, that is still alive and vigorous and capable of action, feel gratitude. And then think of where all of this can take you. Do not be blind to what you have, and instead, always have that vision of the best version of yourself. And, every day, look for that when you look in the mirror, and tell yourself - what I see is awesome. #theartoffearlessliving#fearlessradicaloptimist#seewhatsreal#charcoalpaintingnotdone#positivelypositive#YouAreAwesome
Today, of all days, begin by loving yourself. Accepting yourself - the good, the bad, the "horror" as well as the #beauty .
Acknowledging the bad and "horror" in us does not diminish us. But rather, it liberates us. It shines light into what we still need to work on. To improve. To forgive and heal. Without judgement.
At the same time, recognise the good and beautiful in yourself. You are amazing in your own special way. And yes, you do add value to our shared #humanity .
We are the sum of everything.
We are beautiful and messy.
And it is ok.
Because we have every power to be better.
We have the power to turn horrors into beauty, pain into joy and hate into Love.
We have the power.
Own that power.
You are so much more.
We are so much more.
#Love and acceptance.
It starts with you.
#SelfLove . #SelfAcceptance .
Then extend it out to all others.
At the heart of #TheArtofFearlessLiving is the #TheArtofFearlessLoving .
Be a #FearlessRadicalOptimist .
Sincerely and wholeheartedly, love yourself by accepting who you truly are. Then, please do the same for all others.
#Happiness begins with you.
Because you ARE the source of #joy , #light and #inspiration .
THAT IS YOUR TRUE POWER.
When I was a young child, I always dreamt of creating my own fashion line. However, I was never good at fashion or even remotely fashionable. I am still not a fashionable person.
But on 20th January 2017, my childhood fantasy came true. All thanks to two amazing ladies who also firmly believe in collaboration and not competition.
Together, we launched #TheMalayaCollection at the recent Social Business Summit 2017 in the #GKEnchantedFarm .
The Malaya collection is a celebration of our diverse #humanity . It is about #friendship , collaborative spirit and the heart of sharing.
When we bring our goodness together, we weave beautiful masterpieces to share with the world.
It is a labour of #love between Philippines and Malaysia. A tribute to our Asian heritage and homage to our tribal communities in our two beloved countries. The Collection includes bags, clothing and will extend to other lines such as home, as well as, stationery.
This venture of #Hope is created by Social Entrepreneurs: Reese Fernandez-Ruiz of #Rags2Riches , Anya Lim of #AnthillFabricGallery and myself.
It showcases our perspective of #sustainablefashion and #zerowaste in creating wearable art. This is what #fashionwithacause looks like.
This is the culmination of the journey between dear friends who believe in the same vision - that we are the change we want to see in the world.
May the Malaya collection inspire you to create your own masterpiece and share it with the world.
May you continue being fearless in the pursuit of your dreams. Always put conviction into your words and actions. And never quit.
Let's weave joyful stories and wear our tribe with pride!
Note: Malaya means "Freedom" in Tagalog and was the old name for Malaysia. Malaysia used to be known as "British Malaya". Hence, the colours of the collection feature the colours of both of countries' flags: Red, White, Blue and Yellow.
"I would rather be ashes than dust!
I would rather that my spark should burn out in a brilliant blaze than it should be stifled by dry-rot. I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet. The function of man is to live, not to exist.
I shall not waste my days trying to prolong them.
I shall use my time." ~ Jack London
And use our time well, we shall. WE MUST.
Burn, baby, burn. Brightly and passionately.
We need your brand of sparkle in the world.
"Be dynamic, live on the edge. Always be at war with yourself. Prove and Contradict yourself at the same time. If you can contradict yourself what you have proven yourself means you are growing. There you will find your future." ~ Umar Rasydan
It is human to fall, fail and feel demoted from time to time. Sometimes, it is like a constant battle. Other times, it feels like a rollercoaster ride.
We are allowed to go through our own emotions while we endure the motions. This is what transformation is about. It is messy, it is painful and uncertain. However, without breaking through each level, we cannot break free from the shell of our lesser selves. So, have #courage and be committed to your own growth. Because you do deserve to become the very best of you. You deserve to experience it.
In going through it all, you finally own your process of becoming and reclaim your authentic powerful self!
Believe in yourself, and build the future you really want to live. Be willing to disrupt yourself and your life to get there.
YOU ARE THE FIRE. Now, light up the world with your special spark!
"Daring" to do does not arise because things are difficult. It is when you don't dare to do, things will become difficult.
#Courage is not an absence of fear. It is inspite of.
When you give into your #Fears , then you've put yourself into your own fabricated prison. Sure it is nice and familiar inside. But you'll never grow into your fullest magnificence.
All of us have created many forms of prisons in our lives - from our prejudiced or limiting beliefs, to our selective caring, to our misconstrued perspectives, to our misunderstood sense of priorities, to our self-serving ways and etc. We like to believe that these prisons protect us. However, in reality, it cripples and diminishes us.
It is our prison that entombs us into lesser versions of ourselves.
Only when we break free, will we discover our greater selves. Then we will truly appreciate the meaning of #Malaya .
Note: #Malaya means #Freedom in Tagalog.
What a gorgeous way to close the year. A rainbow appears to accompany our journey home.
Before the day ends, I would like to thank those who made my 2016 special and amazing. There were many losses as well as delightful surprises. Such is the cycle of our human life. But in the process, we have also learnt to transform horror into #beauty , pain into #joy , suffering into the paths of #inspiration . The journey continues.
It is my honour and privilege to walk this road with you.
"Thank you, I am sorry, Please forgive me, I love you, You are precious", and all the words we use too sparingly.
Wishing one and all a blessed and joyous New Year. May we always celebrate our #humanity and #diversity like the colours of the Rainbow.
Here's looking at 2017 with #Hope and great courageous #LOVE .