Birth trauma is not often talked about. I didn't understand my feelings towards my birth experience for a long time. Things happened out of my control. I have permanent scarring and damage. It hurt my mental health, physical health and effected the bonding between my son and I. I had a plan, a vision of what his birth would look like. I felt like I failed him. Its been 2 years and I'm beginning to accept what happened but I don't know if I'll ever be able to move on completely. Not only did I end up with damage but my son has a brain injury from his birth that could have been prevented.
▪Así me siento, es la sensación con la que despierto todos los días y no necesariamente es por ser bipolar, cualquier persona en mi caso se sentiría así.
▪Mis mensajes de auxilio no tienen respuesta, al menos una coherente que pueda traerme bienestar a mi persona y a la mujer que me dió la vida.
▪Hoy un su vejez, está perdida en sus conflictos, complejos, cegada y egoísta, tanto que no percibe el daño que le hace a los demás.
▪Sí, se ha buscado ayuda médica y todo ha sido en vano, su deseo de continuar su vida como en estado de dopaje es mucho más fuerte que enfrentar el mundo.
▪Está en todo su derecho de pedir ayuda, de alguna forma esa es nuestra cultura, piensas en tener hijos ver hoy por ellos para que el día de mañana vean ellos por ti.
▪Pero esto no se trata de cambiar un pañal no es así de sencillo, se trata de que hoy se ha vuelto, tal vez porque sufrió y no recibió una oportuna ayuda a, en una carga, una persona nociva, cargada de egoísmo.
▪De seguro en su interior no tiene idea del daño que está haciendo, no es su intención, le es imposible reconocerlo, pero de mi lado las cosas son distintas.
▪Ya intenté de todo y lo seguiré intentando no como hijo, como un mejor ser humano. Su abandono no es la alternativa para mí, hay que intentar calzar los zapatos del otro y no quisiera llegar a la vejez abandonado.
▪Hace algunos días escuché que Dios premia los obstáculos, que guarda recompensas, espero que sea mi caso y transformar mis lágrimas en sonrisas y decir si pude aquí estoy.
▪Es difícil ser bipolar y estar a cargo de otra persona, que está cada día te exiga más y que todo lo que no desees escuchar por tu salud, lo escuches de boca de otro.
▪La vida es presente, el futuro incierto, solo obrar de forma positiva hoy tendrá la última palabra.
In the first picture I am anxious, tired, and depressed. In the second picture I am also tired, anxious and depressed.
I like wearing make-up when I'm not 100% because although I might not feel put together, I can at least wear a banging eyeliner. 😂 In all seriousness though, it does make me feel better, and it's just what works for me. Attempting to continue having a bit of normalcy when mental health is not at its best - socializing, working, eating, showering and wearing make-up - helps me a lot, because you are constantly fighting the urge to do the opposite (isolate yourself, do nothing, not eat, sit in a pile of dirt and cry, I guess?). Ignoring the voice in your head that shouts at you that you are not enough, that everyone hates you, that you are a failure, is TOUGH. And sometimes all you can do is just get through it and know eventually that voice will tire.
Mental health is still stigmatized and it is important to be open and have a conversation about it as SO many people are affected, but feel they cannot talk openly about it. It sucks a lot. If you are one of them, know you are not alone, that you have support, that the cruel voice in your head is lying, and you will get through the day. 💪
From a Share Smiles participant: I was sent a number of envelopes for my Share Smiles gift a couple of months ago, each labelled with instructions of when to open. This envelope was “open when you are having a bad day”. This bad day was yesterday and I won’t go into details why it was a tough day but it was the right moment to open this envelope. The note inside was so thoughtful and reminded me that bad days pass and it felt so personal and really gave me a lift. This was a really touching and helpful gift and such a great idea to send out to people who need it. I still have envelopes to open when I’m bored, sick, need a laugh, feeling down and stressed. Although these aren’t days I hope are imminent, knowing I have another little surprise envelope to open will make those days much easier to manage! Thank you so much my Share Smiles buddy, you are really wonderful.
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Power plant (ready for manicuring! ☺️) - 65/35 sativa dominant strain that’s uplifting, creative, upbeat and euphoric. Great for those with depression, fatigue, ADD, anxiety, stress and migraines. Notes are peppery, spicy and woody 🌸
Haven’t got posting much these week 🙈 absolutely buzzing because this week I done my 3RM deadlift & I lighted 80kg 😁💪🏼🎉 This is an amazing PB for me considering my back can cause me bother & my 1RM at the start of June was 77.5kg so I smashed it 😝💁🏼♀️ I didn’t event think of getting a video, I was that focused but it definitely happened 😂 My back has got so much stronger, yes it still annoys me at times but it doesn’t stop me from making it stronger. All the hard work in the gym pays off when you get a PB! Can’t believe I can deadlift 12 stone 6 pounds 💪🏼 I’m only 5ft 😂 This week I was invited to attend the @evolvewomen_ Launch which was brilliant! Celebrating women & wanting to empower & encourage health and well-being throughout for local women. Totally up my street 😁 Inspirational speakers, afternoon tea & goodie bags 🙊 Now today we are back to day 2 of clearing out the house. We got a skip to do an ultimate clear out 😂 It is full & we still need to do a few more rooms 😝 However the house is feeling fresher, so it will be worth it when it’s done & great job satisfaction too 😁💪🏼 #sunday#weekend#gym#exercise#fitness#crossfit#deadlift#pb#80kg#back#legs#strengthandconditioning#strength#muscle#improvement#achievements#proud#gains#mentalhealth#anxiety#health#3RM#evolvewomen#wellbeing#healthyliving#afternoontea#evolve2018#inspiration#clearout#house
I read an interesting story about I #BackToSchool time and 5 tips for helping your child adjust: Here’s what’s up
Of course, some of the lessons of school have little to do with grades. With each day of school, your child is developing and practicing social skills.
Children learn to be stronger through experience.
Here are some tips to help you support your kids:
1. Practice the morning routine.
Go through all the steps of the morning as well as the timing involved to get to school on time.
2. Do a school walk-through if your child needs it.
If your child is particularly anxious about starting a new school year, you can ask the school if you can do a dry walk-through.
You can help your child navigate that first day of school by demystifying it.
3. Encourage good communication.
To help kids open up to you, remember to first put your phone away.
It not only helps you give them your full attention; it also models good behavior. .Use your vehicle as a vehicle of communication,. It allows for casual conversation.
Make it daily habit to debrief. Ask your child about his or her day, every day.
4. Take extra care for a child with anxiety or depression.
There’s a difference between a child with first-day nerves and one dealing with anxiety or depression. If your child has these particular challenges, partner with the school.
5. Don’t neglect the basics: sleep and diet.
Make sure your children are getting enough sleep when they go back to school, especially if you are lax about bedtime over the summer.
For teens, caffeine can be a major issue Kids don’t realize that caffeine is a 24-hour drug that can interrupt their sleep.
When it comes to diet, kids really need a good breakfast, lunch and dinner, with or without a couple snacks.
They need to be in the habit of eating before school, especially for energy that will last until lunchtime.
In conclusion:Enjoy your child and these milestones
Remember, it’s important to take pride in your child’s growth and development,
and in the same way, enjoy your child’s latest milestone as he or she steps into the classroom; as a parent, take pride.
I'm really good at sweeping things under the rug. Often I feel it's easier to not let things get the best of my energy- to just bandaid them up, to move past and focus on the good stuff.
Sure, positivity breads positivity but unresolved things left unresolved fester.
So today I'm letting myself be okay with not being okay. I like to focus on my blessings and to be grateful for all I've been given. But today....I'm accepting that today is just one of those days.
That's life. Sometimes your happy and sometimes you are sad and that's OK. 🙌🏻💓
You’re important. If not for someone else, then for yourself.
Your decisions are significant. If not for anyone else’s life, then for your life.
Your happiness means the world. If not to anyone, then to you!
Let’s not bind our happiness, decisions, self-worth and the realization that ‘I’ am important to people’s approval. We spend a lot of time waiting for the society’s nod, when all we have to do is to look deep inside our heart to see if that particular decision, choice or moment affects us or not.
The key to self-love lies in these small things. If you want to love yourself, learn to give importance to the decisions you take. If you want to stay happy and in bliss, try to appreciate the small things that surround you, and the little steps you take towards happiness.
You don’t need to stamp yourself with people’s approval. Similarly, you don’t need to mold every other person as per your liking. We all are unique, with all our qualities and flaws. This is what makes us human. Don’t destroy anyone’s optimism and outlook towards life by quashing their self-worth and judging them each step of the way. Don’t do this to yourself either.
Live every day like it’s a new day, which it is. Remind yourself to learn kindness, nurture love, develop strength with every passing day. At the end of the day, don’t forget to spread it among the people around you. Because, you know what, the world needs it! It will always be a happy idea to develop and spread it, one person at a time! ❤️
Artwork By: @_huiguorou .
This photo has 2 meanings for me. This week I took a major step to be me. I ordered a @gc2b binder. I'm still not 100% satisfied with how I look but its a start. Also by doing this its made me realise what a strain this was having on my mental health. I'd been suffering for such a long time and wasnt able to say why. Ive finally realised i dont fit in completely with 1 gender and thats ok!! Working towards being at peace with who I am has made me more aware of how to fight through my anxiety and depression. It's by no means over but like my point before its a start!!! Thank you @officiallzzyhale for helping me with that because without you posting #RaiseYourHorns and being who you want to be I probably would have been stuck being unhappy.