HOLD MY HAND
Elsie is now 8 weeks old which of course means baby's first dreaded jabs 😬. I took this picture on our way earlier to the GP as she clutched my hand from the baby carrier. I don't know who was holding whose hand to be honest. I've been here before and I remember being that wimpy mum cowering in the corner sobbing whilst my husband took over and held Theo whilst he cried through the sharp unexpected pain.
No such luck this time around, I was all on my lonesome in the docs office with my poor unsuspecting little victim. And as if it's not bad enough for these poor little mites, they've only added another flipping jab, three injections...THREE 💉😩. Unsurprisingly she yelped with each one, and although I was a bit less of a pathetic mess than the first time, I still felt my heart break each time for her as I tried to apologetically offer her my boob..."it's for your own good Els, I promise". Tonight's been rough , two rounds of Calpol so far which has brought the temperature down but she's really been unhappy and uncomfortable and there has been a lot of screaming. I wish I could tell her it'll soon be over and it will mean she'll be protected from much worse pain and suffering but unfortunately all you can do is cuddle and soothe them through it. 😔
Teddys 8 week check up done! Not a peep out of Teddy just his signature frown at the Dr! And then there was this face when this prodding and poking started! Hope he's this calm for his immunisations tomorrow 🙈 #8weekcheckup#shockedface#notagain
Wow, just saw the best GP I've ever met and she may have regained my faith in the system.... slightly! 😝
Felt pressured to go to Rain's 8 week check up so reluctantly went (after cancelling the vaccine appointment.) I asked the GP what she was "checking" and one of them was the hip check. I requested for her NOT to do this because me and Dan saw it done when Rain was 3 days old and completely regretted it. Awful trauma for a new baby!
She told me today that what they have to do is FORCE the hip joint to see if it will dislocate. (Yes. This is what they do to our babies.) But she said she hates doing it because she agrees it's so traumatic and was so pleased that I asked for it not to be done!
I chatted to (or maybe AT ☺️) her for a bit and because of adopting a child, she says she knows about Attachment Theory and also mentioned about a Chimp. I asked her if she was talking about The Chimp Paradox and she laughed and said yes and so we chatted about it. She referred a lot to the "new" findings of neuroscience about trauma during pregnancy/birth/childhood. She ended up by telling me to continue to trust my instincts and she was so happy for me about Rains vbac birth. She didn't even mention not vaccinating.
OMG. So fucking refreshing and I am feeling so so happy with our choices and ever growing knowledge and trust in ourselves. This system is so outdated and hopefully even "science" will catch up soon with what most of us know is best for us and our children!
Never be afraid of asking a doctor or health profession NOT to do something or questioning them!
He screamed for 20 minutes straight. Like high pitched I hate this scream. So sure I'd like to have my first cup of coffee and get things done while the other boy naps but I'm afraid for him to wake up again... Darn shots :( #littleharvey#8weekcheckup#ireallyneedcaffeine